FWB and a rebound - does not mix

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So I broke up with my ex a few weeks ago, although I was pretty over him by then. (It sounds mean but its true). A couple of days ago I slept with of my friends, who I have previously slept with on a casual basis when I was previously single. He's the type of guy who doesn't like the idea of commitment and he's usually single.

Normally we'd just be sleeping together and hanging out as friends but now it feels different. He seems more affectionate and even protective. He also seems to be less involved with other girls. When I suggested a threesome (half joking, half serious), he said he didn't know anyone willing to join in. It seems to point to him wanting me not just as a fwb. Earlier this year, at my 21st when I was with my now ex, he mentioned to my sister that he was interested in me, she then told me. I just thought it was down to being former fwbs.

The kicker is, I sort of like the idea of going out with him. He's attractive, funny, smart and more mature than my ex boyfriends. So it could even be that I'm projecting my feelings onto him. If it's actually genuine, it probably is a bit soon to be going out with him soon after breaking up with my ex. If its not genuine, I'll probably have to go back with being just friends with him. It's so confusing and frustrating.

so you are telling us that even though you were pretty much over your ex when you broke up you think you are on the rebound? Rebound is usually reserved for those who think they are not over their ex. The traditional mourning period, is passe' You go out with someone else when you feel like it. Why waste anymore of your life on someone you are not in love with. It's not like you guys are thinking about getting back together. BTW it doesn't sound mean. It sounds like you tried everything and nothing would work, so you left him when you had depleted yourself of all the choices.

Second, you feel something for someone whom you had a relationship in the past? I know it was a FB relationship, but it was still a relationship none the less. Why not just go with it? This is how most relationships begin. Most people do not commit and then have sex, it's the other way around.