how to handle this? Anyone has similar experiences?

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Hey to all,

so, I don´t really know if this belongs here or would be better in "The Haven"...but I will just give it a try: so the thing is that there is this guy who seems (I´m never sure about these things) to like me and seems to be interested in getting to know me closer. I never really had a functional relationship with someone because I can´t handle if someone is too emotional and wants to get too close to me. The thing is that I also wouldn´t want to end up alone all my life, and this guy, who is a friend, seems to be a really nice person with a good heart, but...I just get so annoyed with his overly emotional manners and his intentions to touch me, etc. I don´t want to sound like a hysteric cow but this is really stressing me. At the same time my low tolerance to his niceness is stressing me too. Somehow I think I can´t do this and I feel a bit every time after we have met and I have kept him on a polite distance, but at the same time I feel relieved when he leaves and I get back to my stuff again. Is there something I can do about this? Are there de-sensibilizing methods? Someone has similar experiences?

Thank you!

marymary
wait for someone you feel more comfortable around? which is difficult when you feel most comfortable alone, i know
Nice is nice but it isn't that nice

Don't assume that your reaction to him represents how you would be with anyone else. You're probably highly sensitive to all the invisible 'vibes'. It's quite possible you would feel comfortable being touched by someone else. I had four girlfriends before I met someone I felt comfortable with. It was totally new and unexpected. Plus, if that photo is you then you won't lack for attention, even if you can't spot it.

With this guy try alcohol.

Either stand up for your boundaries, alcohol, or the doctor-prescribed alternative of their choice. There are SOME people out there that shouldn't drink AT ALL, simply because of what they morph into when they do.

Have A Great Day!

Rob

Ok, no whining, no pushing, but also no alcohol for sure.
Thanks for the advise!

m.