What Is Most "Attractive" To You?

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What do you find most attractive about others?

Personally, I'm attracted first by appearances ("Looks"), but it is the depth of personality, the breadth of knowledge, and the height of talent that keep me around. Money is also a plus. But if the person simply doesn't like me, then all bets are off.

So, what is it? What is the most significant thing that attracts you to another person? Be honest, please. Is it looks? Is it money? Is it power, talent, or even sense of humor? Or is it something else... ?

Please read all options before choosing one.

Thank you.

I'm attracted to most any girl who seems interested in me or like she might give ma a chance so I voted for Other

Mine is a combination of all these things. For me, it's more about feeling comfortable in someone's presence, not the level to which someone has all these things in combination. I need someone who's smart, who gets me, who I'm physically attracted to, who is wise and has respect. His politics and religion would have to be broad enough to accommodate dissent, if I believed differently. That kind of thing.

For me:

DEFINITELY NOT
Material Wealth.
Power / Authority.
Popularity / Sociability.
Inaccessibility / Remoteness.

SOMEWHAT
Political Affiliation.
Religious Beliefs.
Educational Level.
Knowledge & Wisdom.
Friendliness / Niceness.

YES
Physical Appearance.
Personal Philosophy.
Artistic Talent / Creativity.
Sense of Humor.
Sensuality / Sexuality.
Modesty / Shyness.

Sexual attraction or long term relationship material?

I chose friendliness/niceness since I feel that if you get treated badly then why bother being with someone who doesn't treat you with love and respect?
Also I would say that the Wealth, Religious Beliefs and Political Views are not a preference I look to in a partner.

Looks.

All the other stuff is great but it doesn't create attraction. I know men who are artistic, smart, wealthy, nice etc but I'm not attracted to them. Neither am I attracted to kids or old people who have any of those qualities. Attraction is about looks. Or maybe a nice accent...

Random combination which depends on my current state.

I voted artistic talent/creativity.

I always get extremely attracted to musicians...the guy I currently like is a DJ, and the last one I liked was (and still is) in a band. One of the girls I mentor is the same way.

Personal philosophy's a big one, too. I just love my current crush's mind...he is confident, creative and complex, and I love all the things he values.

This is two questions in one.

As you said, Fnord, looks are essential to catch my interest. To keep it, though, we need mutual interests and activities. An open mind and active pursuit of knowledge are very welcome. And sedentarism is a big no. Above all, she must have a tolerance for some weirdness, because I do not think or act like "normal" people: I space out a lot, I am hyperactive and I have a weird sense of humor.

Material wealth and power/authority are probably the most irrelevant criteria of all. I am a very proud man: I only feel satisfied when I achieve something by myself. Therefore, I have no interest in another person's money/power, and I expect the other person to be able to live without my help.

I think the best answer for me would be "other".

niceness and sense of humour
am i asking for much

I voted other as I am not attracted to people.

I used to think that I pay attention to looks first, but recently I've discovered that I don't actually, it takes other qualities to catch my attention and my focus into how someone actually looks, or to the fact that they even exist and have an operational mind.

the thing that attracts me most though is I need to really admire the guy for whichever quality. I crush easily on men who posses the qualities which I desire to have the most. I get distracted into thinking about other things/other people if the person that had sparked my interest turns out to not be enough of a role model.

yeah, I'm the kind of girl who went through education daydreaming about her male professors.

but it's not purely about wisdom or knowledge or intellect, but about personality traits as well. I admit that I find the NT social charisma quite irresistible. so voted "other".

Right now, I'd say inaccessibility.

It's a whole slew of things. Trying to pinpoint one single factor just sends my mind into overload. But my standards are pretty much the opposite of what you would normally expect a girl my age to find attractive.