Talking on the phone with my not so girlfriend..

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ive been talking to this girl who lives in newyork we have been talking for almost 2 years. and i refuse to talk to her on the phone and shes starting to slip from my grasp im planning on moving to ny to live there to be with her i can do that no problem. but i dont know what it is in me that will not answer her phonecalls will never have the energy to pick my phone up and have a conversation with her i almost feel paranoid. what do you think it could be or what are your opinions or views on this?

I don't like the telephone either. It has become a real hindrance for me to not be able to answer the phone or make phone calls. Getting caller ID helped as I can now see who is calling and decide whether to take the call or not. I still have extreme trouble calling anyone tho. I have even started having trouble calling my mother or my brother.
I thought it was just me. Maybe not.

Pooh Bear

Explain this to her and tell her that you prefer to text or e-mail or something. Just ignoring her calls will send the wrong signal.

we have this conversation every other week.. and she is getting to that point where she is going to get up and walk out of my life.

[Moved from General Autism Discussion to Love and Dating]

Perhaps you could try telling her that some Aspie have major problems talking on the phone. There's been some post here on WP about why we have problems with that. If you would show her some post; she might understand that you avoid the phone cuz of your AS & not because your disinterested in talking to her which is probably what she thinks rite now. I didn't pay much attention to those post about phones thou so I'm not sure how to search for em but hopefully some others here can provide links

Try talking over a computer like with skype. My friend doesn't like phones but can talk on headphones all day long.

Over not liking the phone? Why? Makes little sense to me. As long as you're still talking via different protocols I don't see the issue there. She's being irrational if you ask me.