AS GIRLS: Are you more forward than your AS guy?

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I'm an AS girl dating an AS guy, and most of the time, I bring up the romantic conversation and say the stuff that he should be telling me. Sometimes, I find myself being the one leading and he's just following along... happily but still....I sort of start it. Not in a physical way, just talking, but still I'm the one who brings up serious conversation most of the time and I'm the one who is more romantic with him.......is it just me? Or do you girls find yourselves doing the same with your AS guys?

I'm an Aspie guy & my 2nd girlfriend was an Aspie & I was defiantly the more forward one in our relationship.. I was the one who wanted to discuss things & I was the more romantic one. She took charge & had almost complete control over our relationship thou so I was the follower in some ways

Sorry that I'm a guy replying, but I'm an AS guy with an AS girl. And surprisingly enough, we both contribute equally to romantic stuff (Well, not exactly equally, but what is ever exactly equal? I might be doing 52% of it or 48% of it, but that's close enough). Yet I don't think it's because of our love for one another; I think it's just that we naturally have the same output as each other. People can increase their romantic/serious output, but unless they change their whole personality, I think it's more of a forced thing. Anyways, if you've been leading him in all this and he's comfortable with that and doesn't know you're not, then it's easy to just keep letting you lead. He might think you enjoy leading or something, too. Maybe make your wants known? But don't hurt his feelings.

So yeah, I believe it's not gender-based but individual-based. Guys can lead in relationships, and that sometimes feels more normal because males are supposed to be dominant or some such evolution thing. So when it's a girl leading, it might feel more abnormal. I don't know, seems like he just naturally doesn't give as much output as you. If he knows you want him to, he might try to do it more.

I'm enjoying my relationship. Our gives and takes are balanced. But I'm just lucky.

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I'm not sure if I'd ever be able to "lead" in any way, being so self conscious. But then I'd also like things more if women were more dominant or at least equal in general. The idea that guys should always be the more dominant or head of the household or master or whatever else seems sexist and counter productive anyway.