Think I was a bit too harsh...(Any advice?)

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Ok after some thought and talking to some people I decided that I should end a relationship with a guy I've been seeing. I was told just to do it quickly by changing my facebook status...I think that was a mistake. I'm a bit emotionless at times especially in social situations which I don't understand. Now I've been told I should have told him first and that I was harsh. I feel bad now. I don't really know how I can sort of now make this less bad than it seems...

how old are you:/

19

Yes you should probably talk to him at any hope to end it amicably.

yikes. probably should've given him a heads up first

you need to apologise to him, simples

Ah well I was planning to of course but it was a bit tricky cause I hadn't spoken to him in a while and had been a bit ignored. Yeah I will say sorry though.

Just tell him, however you can best explain it, that you didn't mean for it to come across the way it did...that you didn't know how to handle it and/or regret the way you did handle it.

But be very careful to make the distinction - that you regret the way you ended things, not the fact that you did end it - because it could easily lead to a misunderstanding if this isn't clear.

I believe if you were to break up with someone, do it face to face. It's more personal and polite than breaking up over a text message or phone call.

I think it's a medium mistake, if that.

A couple of sentence statement, generally just being matter-of-fact.

Also, you can have hot break-up sex.
Just kidding.

You really need to get laid, dont you?

Then you'd want your ex back! What's the point of breaking up then?

Yeah I've explained this now. Also yes I did make the distinction (good point thanks ).

In hindsight I would of said this face to face but one of the main reasons I ended it was because he was pretty much ignoring me. Hence it was tricky to try to talk to him.

Thanks for the advice.

IMO you should always tell the person... and in person..

Just out of interest.. you're dumping someone after talking to people? :/

Couldn't you have just turned up to his house, messaged him on face book or emailed him? Perhaps a phone call? All those are better than doing it by changing your facebook status.

It's pretty awful.

^this........but yeah that is probably the worst way to end a relationship, I mean imagine you're dating someone and then out of the blue on face book you get the update your girlfriend/boyfriend updated their status to single or just seeing their status changed. However it may be worth noting the fact they did not get in contact with you to tell you how angry or upset it made them tells me maybe things where already coming to an end.