Dating tips ASAP

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Tomorrow I have my frist date ever(no shockers there) but she kinda dropped a bomb on me last night...she is an aspie(good news, so am I) but she is also ADD, Dyslexic and a "soul binder" which turns out to be split personality disorder or as she says "at least 20 people in her head" so human some humanish.... Any tips on this date?

Don't make a judgement about her until you've tried out two thirds of her personalities.

Not judging her. Just looking for some help so I don't make a fool out of my self.

Ask her questions when there is a lull. If you can't think of anything to ask her, why are you on a date? Surely there are things you want to know.

See how it goes ... be open minded, but don't take any crap.

Wow! This sounds like it could turn out to be a really interesting date!

If I were you, I would take the opportunity to ask all about what being a "soul binder" is like. Then I would promptly report back to us.

Well, might solve the problem of awkward silences.

make sure all of her personalities are ok with it. You dont want one getting jealous cause you spend more time with another.

Take notes

she is probably not dangerous or too worrisome in most ways but she will be unlikely to recall events that happen while she is experiencing dissociation, which could be problematic for a relationship.

dissociative identity disorder (DID) is generally precipitated by extreme trauma or abuse as well, so there is that aspect to keep in mind. i would enquire as to whether she is currently in any treatment such as CBT or long-term therapy, because if she isn't then it's unlikely she will get better on her own, and that is a concern if she is currently having episodes.

also, i would definitely be concerned that she seems to have mythologised a mental illness ("soul binder"???).

i wouldn't say that she is incapable of having a healthy relationship, but treading carefully is probably a good idea. the novelty of "multiple personalities" will likely wear off fast, and the hallmark of someone with DID is often a fear of abandonment.

She said she is in Control but let's the others others play. And I do know how to fight.


She does have some truma via the aspie and her parents being highly religulous.

If you google soul binding it does seem to be around, the way she talks about it, she seems happy about her "friends"

Well I would not be too concerned with it then, I mean maybe that is just how she explains how she thinks or something......and is not actually trying to say she has a disorder. Because as far as I know there are no disorders with such a name, you could talk to her about what it means.

Ask if any of her personalities are slu*ty. I like those odds.

I kinda think that's part of it, Each mind is Just a different feeling. Or may she is the last of her kind from a different world and needs my help to become queen!

I did not ask her that...she told me.

Last post. Next time I am here I will let you all know about it all. And by it I Mean the soul bounding.

Make that no post. She was a no show.