Should I even try this?

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So I'll try to make t his as succinct and non-convoluted as possible. At work today I had to contact a producer at the local TV station, after my production company recieved an inquiry about licensing some stock footage for a TV promo spot.

The producer's name had an odd spelling, and I wanted to verify I had the correct spelling before I wrote her. A google search later I found some basic info, was able to verify the name, and saw a picture of her.

Needless to say she is very attractive, and looks about my age, perhaps a bit younger. It's not often to find many women in film/video production, unless they act or do makeup, so to find someone who is into producing is pretty cool, and seems like a worthwhile opportunity, to make a new contact, friend, and perhaps more, as is always the possibility when it comes to the opposite sexes.

But. I. Just. Don't. Know.

I can't think of any plausible way to even meet her, let alone break the ice. With technology the way it is, these transactions are pretty much done via email and FTP, and gone are the days when you'd courier a tape or hard drive over. I may never see this person ever, unless I orchestrate something. And of course I know nothing about her, apart from that we have similar careers, and I'd be interested in learning more.

And besides all that, she's so cute, what chance do I really have anyways? I'm not deluded enough to think she's in my league, as far as my looks go compare to hers.

Do I even bother. Or should I just stick with what's been work, what has kept me sane, which has been to focus on being happy alone, and to not even think about women, dating or the possibility there is anyone out there for me?

This might make some of the later posters angry, but I'd say if you don't think you don't have a chance, then don't do it. It'll spare you a lot of trouble down the line.

Agree with awesome. If you're already in doubt its likely not to get better. Also I wouldnt mess with someone involved in my paychecks.

If you think there is a small chance and you think that this may be something that is worth the sacrifice, I'd say you have a good opportunity. Which you maybe should not let go. That is if she seems like she can be patient and a nice person, and you have that inch of confidence to carry it out. You'll find ways with some dedication

I think I would have done it.

As long as you can keep yourself emotionally divested from her beforehand, I say go for it. If you are already infatuated, then back away slowly. I have done the former effectively and been in the trap of the latter a few times and it has never worked out well.

Nothing ventured, nothing gained. If you don't try and just strike up some sort of friendly conversation you're guaranteed to get nothing.

A 1% chance of success is better than zero and it's worth a shot so long as it won't do you more harm if/when she may reject your interest.

Just to update everyone, I did NOT try this. I would've been crazy and stupid, and I avoided making a fool of myself, without a doubt.

Just gotta keep focusing on what I can control: my work, my art, my hobbies.

Gotta quit thinking about women, and give up these silly ideas that there could possibly be anyone out there for me. The thoughts are killing me, and the best way I can live and find true inner peace and contentment is to be happy in living alone, and to not place my hopes or dreams on the affections of another. Because there is no one out there for me.