Awkward silences

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22 Jan 2012, 11:40 am

Does anybody else experience awkward silences when spending time with their partner? For all the time spent, 4/5 of the time is an awkward silence and 1/5 is us having a conversation.

Is it normal to have such awkward silences? How to reduce them?

fraac
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22 Jan 2012, 11:44 am

If you can't do comfortable silences you shouldn't be together.

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22 Jan 2012, 11:59 am

fraac wrote:

If you can't do comfortable silences you shouldn't be together.

I must disagree. People with autism tend to have difficulty reading other people, I often don't know when a silence is awkward for other people, which make all the silent moments awkward for me.

So to Transhuman this question: Why are the silences awkward for you?

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22 Jan 2012, 12:03 pm

sometimes i do awkward silences on purpose. or extend them at least. then i laugh.

don't you hate when you see old couples out for a meal in total silence. and not in a nice way

oh, op...
do you spend a lottt of time together? maybe spend more apart/on separate endeavours so you have more to talk about when together

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22 Jan 2012, 2:25 pm

There were periods of silence when I met up with my last girlfriend offline but it didn't feel award to me. We had talked about stuff quite a lot online/texting & we couldn't think of stuff to talk about. Plus we were both kind of tired. I still LOVED the silent moments with her because I was with her cuddling or holding her hand while watching DVDs

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22 Jan 2012, 4:42 pm

anxious relationships don't last, non-dismissive do. If you can be in total quietness with your partner then I think its a good pairing. It was never quiet with my ex and it didn't work out like my other exes. then again I was probably going through psychosis with my ex soooo.. you do the math.

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22 Jan 2012, 4:54 pm

Well if I'm with my partner I usually fill silences with making out and more, depending on where we are

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30 Jan 2012, 2:22 pm

nick007 wrote:

These are the silent moments I love the most. I don't feel like I have to entertain and his hand in mine is very comforting. Even better is cuddling.

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