valentines day etiquette

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so i like a girl and she knows it. she seems a bit interested in me, but were still just friends, and will likely remain friends till some time after valentines day. technically we arranged to meet 2 days after valentines day because i was giving her some time to get over breaking up with her ex.

my question is: is it optimal to give her a flower on valentines day? i know how much it sucks to be alone on valentines day.. and she already knows im interested in her so.. whats the play here? do i go see her on valentines day to give her a hug and a flower (and possibly this chocolate that she likes ), or is it better to just wait till were actually a couple, when maybe valentines day gifts are more appropriate?

idk. i dont want her to think im pressuring her to reciprocate feelings she cant fully reciprocate at the moment, but i'd really like for her to have something special on valentines day because, like i said, i know how much it sucks to be alone without any valentines on valentines day.

i do know that i shouldnt overdo it and get her 1000000 roses, but is one flower and a hug and possibly chocolate too much?

Is she into valentines day?

Are you sure she's into you?

If think that even as a friend she will love the gesture. Something simple and sweet like a rose and few chocolates (or just something you know she loves like a cupcake or other) will make her happy and lonely after her break up. I think you should stay light not to scare her but I can't see how she would't appreciate a warm and cute gesture

im not too sure if shes into valentines day. i would assume she would be, as most people are. i think its more rare for people to be against valentines day, even if it was only made to get people to buy random nonsense as a token of their appreciation for each other (something that can, and should be done anyways IMO, and doesnt even have to involve spending money more than the cost of a piece of paper and a pen and ink).

and i think shes kinda into me. shes not SUPER into me, but i think she is still considering the possibility that i could be right for her. idk. i could be completely wrong, and maybe shes already 'friend zoned' me. she did seem to like to make out with me and when we laid down and cuddled / made out she asked me what i was thinking (i've heard this is a good sign).

i cant be completely sure though.

Most people actually aren't.

But by all means give it a go. Don't turn up and stuff it's kind of weird. Why not send her an e-card?

If you want to be romantic, don't do it on Hallmark Day. Do it some other time.

Problem solved.

I would love it. I have never had a valentine.

I think he should go for it. If she has been friend carded it will give her a smile and if she is interested it will make her day. Everyone wants to know someone cares.

I would write in the card that you have noticed she is a bit sad and it is to cheer her up because you care.

Oh crap, I totally forgot about Valentine's Day until I saw this thread. I guess it's coming up again, soon, isn't it?

I think that's a good approach. Keep it friendly and empathetic, but not super-romantic. It should show you care, but not scare her off. Personally, I would just go with a card and, at most, a small piece of chocolate or other candy. I think flowers would be way too much.

Was considering making a thread about it and joking about possible excuses(perhaps the onion vid making fun of it as well) as a reminder but I guess theres no need to now. Just so we are clear I was reminded of this date through fb by a joke update on couples getting back now...

And i think that the advice on keeping it simple is the best.

It depends on the situation. If she actually isn't that into him, it may feel like you would if pizza man did it to you.

Giving someone flowers is not the same as a full on stalker who leaves things on your doorstep nightly and follows you in their car. Sorry to say it.

i vote do it

You can understand why that might have happened, though - i.e. you had some part in it? Takes two to tango, although his behaviour definitely shouldn't be excused.

You sound like Boo.

Another thing you could do is write her name with a heart in candles outside her doorstep so when she looks out of her window, she will see it. However I only suggest doing that if she is your girlfriend, however it may be a good way to tell her that you have strong feelings for her.

Also Roses are too cliche and overrated, she will think you didn't make an effort to think of what flower to buy her, get her something different and colorful like Gerbera daisies or Peruvian lilies. She will probably receive roses from a dozen guys that day, you need to stand out from the crowd.