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Another friend engaged. She's so beautiful, and her fiancee, in as much as I can judge as a heterosexual, is pretty damn good looking. They're made for each other, two beautiful people.

There is no one like that for me, that's for sure. No way. Oh well, gotta be grateful for what I have. Gotta stay focused on doing some good in the world. Gotta quit worrying about being alone.

i know how you feel. my friend got married in October and i didnt go.
when she told me she was engaged, i was jealous, because i wanted what she had and i know ill never get it.
it seems like everyone around is having kids and getting married and here i am wanting what they have.

i wrote a entire blog entry on the topic.

It seems like everyone I know is either marrying or having kids. It's so depressing.

Four people I grew up with and was/am quite close with all got engaged within a two-week period recently (starting Thanksgiving weekend).
Eh. I don't know. My feelings on these matters are pretty much nonexistent, they are so distant from my experience. It seems as real and significant to me as Barbie marrying Ken and a little less exciting cause I would have a say in Barbie and Ken's wedding plans. Part of me really wants everyone to have exactly the same size slice of cake and is seething that that isn't happening but that is drowned out now by the thing telling me to stop waiting for someone to cut me my portion and just go out and become someone who has the power over the whole cake.

Yeah, it suddenly seems as if so many people I know are getting married and having kids these days. And yeah, often the people doing it are more of the 'nice, well rounded package' type than the 'totally amazing in some ways but don't tick boxes' type. Having a family is actually something I want to do and I know I could do quite well except that I really need the right sort of guy who is enough on my wavelength that the relationship can cope with my autistic traits but also not a carbon copy of me, that would be boring. And available. And interested. Sigh.

I think this whole matching thing must be easier for the 'nice package' people because a) they can be totally themselves at first and don't have a bunch of behaviours you would only get to know if you moved in with them and b) more people fit well with them.

I know the feeling. I have several friends who, in the last year, I have gotten to congratulate them on getting engaged/married (granted, two of them were my coworkers), but I'm seeing more unwed teenage parents these days (atleast at home) than married/engaged couples. Atleast one of my friends has it right; she was a primary school classmate of mine, ended up dating her guy a few years, got engaged and then got pregnant.

I've dreamed of being married and having kids, and I actually feel that's a bright possibility right now (: My boyfriend and I had actually planned, before I came here, to be engaged before my 20th birthday... I think him figuring out I have AS, paired with his mum criticising the idea, might have scared him away from the thought :s But we talk about a life together constantly, getting married someday and having kids, designing and building our own house... if we can get a good enough education and good enough job for that xD We've even already named our first future boy and girl o.O

Don't be jealous of marriage, it ends in divorce anyway.

i don't understand marriage. to me it seems like a way of making it harder to seperate if things go wrong. what are the positives of it?

Not necessarily.

In Germany married couples receive financial advantages from the state regarding health insurance. That is exactly the reason why my sister married Now they have become a happy family, and it seems they like the "status" of being married so young.

Ive also received annoying questions about me being the older sister and still not married, but I dont care too much about that box-thinking stuff. My sister is my best friend, and I only whish her the best. I also dont think that Ill ever marry for another reason than hers, because its not important for me, at least not at the moment.

Well there is the 0.0001% exception (my grandparents 60 years), but I just think relationships is a fools endeavor.

Our civil partnership was formed on equally clinical grounds - we waited until it became legally useful, so we could get the mortgage and the life insurance sorted out.

Marriages are often a disaster, usually because the people who have them either don't make good choices or can't handle the responsibility that comes with a relationship.

I know where you're comin from. I'm 20 and quite a few female friends of mine are already pregnant or have had kids already. I don't know whether to feel left out or relieved that I'm not a dad yet!

My ex is getting married (not soon after we broke up).

Anyone been in THAT situation? feelsweirdman.jpg

My ex husband married one of my best friends a year after I kicked him out. I didn't get remarried until about 3 years later. I'm still married, 25 years next month, they are still married but will never be together again, as he is going to eventually be executed by the state of Mississippi. She's still my friend, and we stay in touch. After G killed that guy she had a nervous breakdown and wouldn't eat or leave the house or take a bath and her meds were all messed up. After talking to her on the phone I got concerned and drove to her house and made her come with me. I kept her there for a week, feeding her and taking care of her, until her high school bf who she has always been in love with got out, and they are together now. I went and spent a week with them last summer and she is doing great! I'm so happy for her! She looks better than she has in a long, long time.

Pffft. That's nothing. My father divorced my mother when I was small... and married her sister. So he became my uncle. And my cousin is thus also my half-brother. You couldn't make it up.