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03 Jan 2012, 7:04 pm
03 Jan 2012, 7:07 pm
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What's wrong with being clingy & desperate? I would LOVE to find a woman who is
Unfortunately it's not a healthy behavior. I've only come across problems with people who display this type
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03 Jan 2012, 7:09 pm
Trigas wrote:
nick007 wrote:
What's wrong with being clingy & desperate? I would LOVE to find a woman who is
Unfortunately it's not a healthy behavior. I've only come across problems with people who display this type
The world healthy is relative. It's not a problem if clingy person has a partner who is the same way they are
03 Jan 2012, 7:15 pm
nick007 wrote:
Trigas wrote:
nick007 wrote:
What's wrong with being clingy & desperate? I would LOVE to find a woman who is
Unfortunately it's not a healthy behavior. I've only come across problems with people who display this type
The world healthy is relative. It's not a problem if clingy person has a partner who is the same way they are
In my experience it wasn't "healthy" for either of us. We were on a roller coaster ride for the entirety of our relationship and it was complete chaos. Desperation is such an horrible feeling for a person to have I don't think I could ever handle someone I loved feeling this way at all times.
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03 Jan 2012, 7:16 pm
nick007 wrote:
Trigas wrote:
nick007 wrote:
What's wrong with being clingy & desperate? I would LOVE to find a woman who is
Unfortunately it's not a healthy behavior. I've only come across problems with people who display this type
The world healthy is relative. It's not a problem if clingy person has a partner who is the same way they are
NO, NO, NO, NO, NO!! You are WRONG! I thought the same thing you did, and I almost paid for it with my life! Do NOT allow yourself to fall into this trap! This is very dangerous. You need to reign in your clingy tendencies and try not to get into a relationship with someone else who is allowing its clingy tendencies to go crazy. If you don't, you could wind up dead or injured, and the people around you will be heartbroken.
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03 Jan 2012, 7:19 pm
Trigas wrote:
nick007 wrote:
Trigas wrote:
nick007 wrote:
What's wrong with being clingy & desperate? I would LOVE to find a woman who is
Unfortunately it's not a healthy behavior. I've only come across problems with people who display this type
The world healthy is relative. It's not a problem if clingy person has a partner who is the same way they are
In my experience it wasn't "healthy" for either of us. We were on a roller coaster ride for the entirety of our relationship and it was complete chaos. Desperation is such an horrible feeling for a person to have I don't think I could ever handle someone I loved feeling this way at all times.
My limited experience is the opposite. It only was only a problem with my 2nd girlfriend when she became withdrawn. Things went quite well for both of us when she was clingy as well.
03 Jan 2012, 7:22 pm
nick007 wrote:
Trigas wrote:
nick007 wrote:
Trigas wrote:
nick007 wrote:
What's wrong with being clingy & desperate? I would LOVE to find a woman who is
Unfortunately it's not a healthy behavior. I've only come across problems with people who display this type
The world healthy is relative. It's not a problem if clingy person has a partner who is the same way they are
In my experience it wasn't "healthy" for either of us. We were on a roller coaster ride for the entirety of our relationship and it was complete chaos. Desperation is such an horrible feeling for a person to have I don't think I could ever handle someone I loved feeling this way at all times.
My limited experience is the opposite. It only was only a problem with my 2nd girlfriend when she became withdrawn. Things went quite well for both of us when she was clingy as well.
Yes that is it right there. That's what ultimately happens because a person cannot constantly keep the act up. It's emotionally draining for everyone involved.
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03 Jan 2012, 7:24 pm
Trigas wrote:
nick007 wrote:
Trigas wrote:
nick007 wrote:
Trigas wrote:
nick007 wrote:
What's wrong with being clingy & desperate? I would LOVE to find a woman who is
Unfortunately it's not a healthy behavior. I've only come across problems with people who display this type
The world healthy is relative. It's not a problem if clingy person has a partner who is the same way they are
In my experience it wasn't "healthy" for either of us. We were on a roller coaster ride for the entirety of our relationship and it was complete chaos. Desperation is such an horrible feeling for a person to have I don't think I could ever handle someone I loved feeling this way at all times.
My limited experience is the opposite. It only was only a problem with my 2nd girlfriend when she became withdrawn. Things went quite well for both of us when she was clingy as well.
Yes that is it right there. That's what ultimately happens because a person cannot constantly keep the act up. It's emotionally draining for everyone involved.
It was never keeping up an act with me & it was only emotionally draining for me when she was not the same way as me
03 Jan 2012, 7:28 pm
nick007 wrote:
It was never keeping up an act with me & it was only emotionally draining for me when she was not the same way as me
Do you honestly think someone can always be in a state of desperation for their entire life?
That sounds so miserable in thought, such an unfulfilled life. It just seems like you would want a partner who is content not one who is prone to extreme frantic states.
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03 Jan 2012, 7:37 pm
Trigas wrote:
nick007 wrote:
It was never keeping up an act with me & it was only emotionally draining for me when she was not the same way as me
Do you honestly think someone can always be in a state of desperation for their entire life?
That sounds so miserable in thought, such an unfulfilled life. It just seems like you would want a partner who is content not one who is prone to extreme frantic states.Of coarse I do NOT think that. I think we may have a misunderstanding here. I did NOT feel desperate after we coupled up & I honestly never felt miserable or unfulfilled with her; I was happier with her than I ever been & I became a lot more confident as well. I think desperate people can help each other out when get together with someone who's the same way; it's kind of a symbiotic relationship where they are both better people for having the other. That's how it was for me. I do think there could be major problems depending on how they deal with their clingy & desperateness in the relationship but it can be good if they talk about it & work together to deal with it; think of it as kind of like a 2 person support group.
03 Jan 2012, 7:43 pm
nick007 wrote:
Trigas wrote:
nick007 wrote:
It was never keeping up an act with me & it was only emotionally draining for me when she was not the same way as me
Do you honestly think someone can always be in a state of desperation for their entire life?
That sounds so miserable in thought, such an unfulfilled life. It just seems like you would want a partner who is content not one who is prone to extreme frantic states.Of coarse I do NOT think that. I think we may have a misunderstanding here. I did NOT feel desperate after we coupled up & I honestly never felt miserable or unfulfilled with her; I was happier with her than I ever been & I became a lot more confident as well. I think desperate people can help each other out when get together with someone who's the same way; it's kind of a symbiotic relationship where they are both better people for having the other. That's how it was for me. I do think there could be major problems depending on how they deal with their clingy & desperateness in the relationship but it can be good if they talk about it & work together to deal with it; think of it as kind of like a 2 person support group.
Ah alright thank you for clearing that up then. Yes it could potentially be something that brings both parties together if they are able to both deal with their problems effectively.
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03 Jan 2012, 8:07 pm
Trigas wrote:
nick007 wrote:
Trigas wrote:
nick007 wrote:
It was never keeping up an act with me & it was only emotionally draining for me when she was not the same way as me
Do you honestly think someone can always be in a state of desperation for their entire life?
That sounds so miserable in thought, such an unfulfilled life. It just seems like you would want a partner who is content not one who is prone to extreme frantic states.Of coarse I do NOT think that. I think we may have a misunderstanding here. I did NOT feel desperate after we coupled up & I honestly never felt miserable or unfulfilled with her; I was happier with her than I ever been & I became a lot more confident as well. I think desperate people can help each other out when get together with someone who's the same way; it's kind of a symbiotic relationship where they are both better people for having the other. That's how it was for me. I do think there could be major problems depending on how they deal with their clingy & desperateness in the relationship but it can be good if they talk about it & work together to deal with it; think of it as kind of like a 2 person support group.
Ah alright thank you for clearing that up then. Yes it could potentially be something that brings both parties together if they are able to both deal with their problems effectively.
I should of explained it a lot better. I don't know how to explain that stuff well or I forget to sometimes. I DO think it's GOOD that ManicMinx is trying to work on that behavior but I do not necessarily think that being clingy & desperate is a bad thing. It's how you deal with it that makes it good or bad. I hate the way the dating scene tends to treat that behavior as the black plague. People think they need to be completely independent & self-sufficient to be datable. & lotstry to hide/cover it up for as long as they can which eventually causes major problems when it comes out. I wish the dating scene would have a better understanding & be more sympathetic of it & people weren't afraid to be honest about it. I should probably shut-up & quit rambling now
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