Now I know why us aspies can't get any girls!

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Its b-cuz of our lack of social skills, my physictrist told me yesterday. Now I really want 2 cure my autism And besides I get jealous when i see a young couple! WHY CAN'T I BE LIKE THEM WHAT KINDA WORLD IS THIS COMING 2?!?!?!?

One where people put so little thought and effort into communicating that they type in a nonsensical jargon commonly known as 'txt spk'.

i think you can still succeed at getting good communication skills.

You can't "cure" your autism, but you can practice skills, and master your emotions so you can attract NT girls. Check the Love and Dating Forum, the stories are like yours, and you'll get some good suggestions.

BTW, I'm ASpic, and married for 16 years to a lady who's NT (mostly).

Been there, even done that.

And discovered that the problems aren't cured by "getting a girl."
Whatever society at large sells, proclaims, hints about such.

Yes, I saw "happy couples" and concluded that if I too were part of a couple,
I would then be happy. I'm not saying that can never happen,
but I do firmly shout, or even sing: "It ain't necessarily so."


Developing social skills yes. Useful. Noting how society at large works. That too.

But deciding to join it? Unreservedly accept its way of doing things?
Look for a girl who will not like me, unless I communicate and act on her terms?

No, none of that's a done deal at all.

In any case, I'd say that your exudes psychiatrist has a slightly anti-autist philosophy.

. o O (Psychiatrists trying to change people's paradigms to a norm... that's nothing new.)

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Garlic is always there to help you in matters of the heart (pun intended), no matter what.

It isn't true that aspie guys can't get girls. I'm an an aspie support/interest group and one of the members of that group (officialy dx'd with AS) is *very* popular with the girls. Some of the others just have ordinary dating relationships- not overly interesting, but it's not like they can't or haven't gotten dates.

Yupa, This AS guy that is popular with the girls is really in an interesting case. can you tell us more about him ? Also, you went to school in AlAin UAE..! !! !! wow its a small world ..I'm from Al-Ain, UAE. .. Are you from the Emirates ?

You know what makes me angry? When people make a big deal of their relationship in high school, and then break up over the smallest thing and say their lives are ruined!

Sadly, the trick is to try to find the right way to tell them, and the right time, and to find somone who cares enough to try thier best. Im still waiting for that.

Did you ask that in another forum???

(NT??)

Aspies can get girls trust me.
But you have to learn social skills.
I used to go to this center where i learnt social skills.
You learn to understand excactly how stuff works.
To us it usually doesn't come natural to understand social situations so we have to learn about how they work.

Trust me even though it might take some times to master these skills.
You wil eventually not want to go without them.

A few tips so you can get girls to like you:

Things that make you more appealing to women in the way of looks.

-Get a decent haircut.
-Make sure you shave properly.
-Get fashionable clothes.
-Make sure you shower every morning and use deodorant.
-Brush your teeth. (use gum alot if you smoke)

-When talking to women make a good amount of eyecontact but don't stare.(especially not at breasts lol)
-Smile alot when talking, this shows them you like them.
-Give compliments at time about stuff such as hair,clothing etc.(girls love that)
-Don't talk about your own interests 24/7. This annoys women and makes them not wanna be around you.

I've learned all this stuff and eventually became popular with the women.

I've dated a few girls, been with a few girls and are friends with girls. I have no problems meeting girls, mainly cause I find a common bond and that helps. I guess we each have our issues with the opposite sex, I may be single right now, but I am not gonna worry about that, just gotta be positive about it.

My social skills are better now than what they were when I was in school, cause my parents worked with me a lot, and I guess that had an impact.

WildThing121675

Hi! New here.

Getting the girl is only half the battle. She has to then deal with you and your AS and be willing to understand. THAT is the difficulty....the making it work!

Just my two cents.