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Ok, so I am new to this and I have done a lot of research on AS and lasting relationships. The outlook is not promising for AS so, I was wondering;

"How long have you been in your relationship?"
"Is it easier to date NT's or AS's?"

I have been with my husband for 11 years total and have been attracted to three different guys who I suspect had AS, but only dated one of them. If memory serves me correct the AS guys was cool to hang out with, but I only just remembered that I dated him a couple of weeks ago, so what does that say about that relationship?

About 20 years.


I don't know, since I've never asked a woman whether or not she had AS/ASD, and I am not qualified to make such a diagnosis.


Which relationship?

Keep in mind that suspicion proves nothing, so you don't know if those three guys had AS/ASD.

We're coming up on our 26th year of marriage. She's NT with a sister on the spectrum, so the concept of relating to someone with AS is not alien to my wife. With work and understanding, our investment in each other has yielded a lot of good times and happiness.

i'll have been married three years in may. i think my husband is NT, but he's not the most social guy on the planet. we mostly hang out together quietly.

I have been with my husband for 11 years total and have been attracted to three different guys who I suspect had AS, but only dated one of them. If memory serves me correct the AS guys was cool to hang out with, but I only just remembered that I dated him a couple of weeks ago, so what does that say about that relationship?[/quote]

The relationship I had with the AS.

My husband and I have been together 6-1/2 years; we suspect he may be on the spectrum. He wants to get evaluated when our finances allow for it. Our relationship is often difficult, but we always come back to the same mutual conclusion that we want to make it work.

together for 4 years married a couple of months

Never dated anyone on the spectrum

But what I find being an apsie is to have a wife who understands not necessarily autism but how to deal with me when I get quarky. She often will do the shopping with her sister an leave me home because I hate stores. And when I get angry she knows the best thing is leave me be till I cool down.

I've been married for 4 years now. And I'm the one with AS. Things have been really, really difficult from the start. I re-married my 1st wife thinking that after 25 years apart, it would be different this time. WRONG. Admittedly, most of the problems stem from my inablility to talk to her, especially when the fights start. We both have threatened divorce so many times so now that's what I want.

what research have you managed to track down, Zhane? i've been looking a long time and haven't seen much.

Any married non-religious British aspie men here. I want to know how many there are.
I am sure that they are less likely to be married to an American Christian aspie woman.

It depends, being on the spectrum doesn't necessarily define our views, perspectives, compatibility and interactivity with other people on the spectrum and personalities, that's why there are many discussions on here. It does determine certain characteristics and behaviors but again, people on the spectrum are individuals and they can vary from different degrees.

Each relationship might have potential perks, however in any case, dating someone on the spectrum will require compromise, patience, mutual understanding, tolerance and love.

Married 25 years to an NT, with four NT kids and a grandbaby.

Before that I was married about a year to a true, honest to God sociopath.

1.5 years in a solid relationship. Not married. I don't think I want to. Marriage is an archaic institution. A piece of paper from the government won't change the feelings we have for each other. If things ever went badly for us it'd be a lot easier to deal with without involving the courts and IRS and banks and car loan and home loan and and and and... <hyperventilate>