hyperlexian wrote:
nothing will "steal" the girls from the jocks. if those particular girls want jocks, they'll go for jocks. you may have more success checking out the girls who are NOT going after jocks, who instead hang out with a different crowd.
Well you could always punch the jock in the face. You know, be a caveman.
Erm, let's see, if I had known what I know now in high school.... That girls like guys with big butts, and that it's actually attractive. Since like middle school, I've had a complex about mine, and like, I didn't know girls actually liked it. So one time in health class (I've told this story on here) these 2 girls (or maybe it was just one) were grabbing my butt repeatedly. I thought they were like, making fun of me. Little did I know they ACTUALLY wanted to bone me. So I flipped out slightly and yelled at them. Yep.
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1ytCEuuW2_A[/youtube]
Before this happened, too, a girl yelled out of a car window (actually I think this might have happened more than once) "nice ass!" to me as I was walking home.
Let's see, another thing I didn't know in high school. Apparently people think I'm good looking. I don't know how they come to that conclusion, but I didn't know that in high school. I only got comments about being good looking after high school, and after high school was when I started getting a bit more physically active, too, though, so I don't know if they coincide.
Other stuff, uh, I wish I dressed nicer and had better hygiene throughout high school. I used to just wear ratty stuff a lot more, as to me it still "worked" and I'd repair the hell out of like, pants, and all my sewing would look like s**t. I'd wear this same jacket inside everyday with holes in it that was just so so beat up, I'd wear it in the woods and get it ripped and stuff. So yes, do shower everyday, brush your teeth, shave, all that fun stuff. But for me, one thing that made social everything a lot easier is switching my wardrobe to preppy clothes. It was actually really cheap, I just go to Salvation Army/Goodwill, and preppy brands are all about the same price as "normal" stuff, so I just buy used preppy clothes, $3 Hilfiger jeans, 33c Abercrombie shirts, can't go wrong. Preppy stuff for me is a winner, as it allows me social anonymity. I felt like a sellout for like a day, but then I realized I'm buying all my clothes for cheaper than "punks" do. Oh yeah, definitely comb your hair once it gets to be like an inch long, I just figured out the whole "combing" thing recently. Oops.
For girls in particular, uh, basically, try the best you can to be straight to the point. That's my problem now. I'll like, "ramble" on to a girl forever and ever, and never get to the point of "hi, I'm romantically interested in you." It saves you a lot of hassle, just doing that.
Other thing I didn't know in high school. Posture. Posture is super important, try to stand up straight, and look straight ahead or even up slightly. Looking at the ground when you walk and poor posture makes people interpret you as weak.
One more thing I wish I did in high school... Exercised and knew how to cook (and by extension eat right.) There's the obvious advantage of either losing fat, gaining muscle, all that fun stuff, external stuff, but the less obvious is internal. First off, biologically, if you work out regularly, you have more endorphins and hormones flowing, especially, dun dun dun, more testosterone! More test, more confidence, and then I think also, the more testosterone in you, the more people can "sense" it, and thus, hotter you are. It's partially why "jocks" get the girls, not because they're in top physical shape, or good looking (in fact, a lot of jocks have pretty ugly faces if you stop and think about it,) it's just the hormones are going correctly for them. It's harder in high school to work out, especially if you're a nerd/weird person like I was/am, as working out has this us vs them mentality with the "jocks" and "nerds" (at least this is my experience.) But really, you gotta do it. For me, I've gotten into weightlifting a bit, and it's great, I specifically like powerlifting and Olympic lifting, those are all numbers games, it's quite fun and you can be a bit OCD about them, very much technique based stuff actually. Just for your sake, you'd probably wanna work out alone, at a gym where not a lot of people from your school go to, so nobody can really criticize you. The fitness thing is a journey and lifestyle that takes time, but the earlier you start, the better it is. In your case, being 15, you'd get a head start of 5 years compared to me.
But yeah, you don't gotta be a "jock" but you do gotta work out. Going off of that, you might be able to take refuge in an individual sport, in a lot of individual sports, being an Aspie can be an advantage, especially if the sport becomes a special interest. Like for me, figure skating's been a Godsend in numerous ways, I so look back and wish I could have started at your age. But, I've noticed at least in my sport, lots of the guys (and girls to a point, but mostly guys) are kinda/very weird, so you won't be too weird in a niche sport like that. Don't knock "girly" sports like gymnastics, ballet, ballroom dance, etc, they'll get you really athletically strong, and the male to female ratio is insanely in your favor as most guys are too afraid to be thought of as "gay" to do them. But, even if that's totally not in the cards for you as a sport idea, any individual athletic thing you can get into will likely do you good.
That's I guess some stuff I've realized over the years and/or stuff I wish I did earlier. Long rambly thing, sorry, but you asked.
PS, hope you were joking about the 7th grader thing, dating a 7th grader=sex offender in most places.
Good luck though.
07 Mar 2012, 7:51 am
