Do any other aspies encounter this problem

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As a guy I find it very hard to interact with girls. It's been like this my whole life (even though my life has only been 15 years). Recently since I started highschool I managed to talk to them easier, with fewer problems. I even asked out a girl and got my first girlfriend and have hugged a girl for the first time. Thing is I have NEVER initiated something with a girl. When I get hugged, it's her hugging me and not the other way. My girlfriend is a passive/shy person and probably won't initiate anything. I really like this girl, I'm not sure about perfect but she is a great girl for me and I want to keep her. I fear if the relationship goes nowhere she will leave me. Earlier today I observed a guy and a girl say "goodbye" to eachother, as the girl was talking the guy leaned in and kissed her on the cheek and she acted as if this was normal and kept talking. I want to be able to do that, but I can't. Do any of you have the problem where you can't do anything romantic with a girl unless they start it? If so how did you overcome it, or has it stuck with you?

just do it. lean in and kiss her on the cheek. it will give you courage to do more when the right time comes.

My biggest problem is lacking the courage to just do it. I'm afraid that if I try something she won't like it. I know that's probably irrational but it's still there, anyway how to get over that?

Also thanks for your last sentence. I never thought about it that way. I was just scarred to do anything but starting small would help me do big.