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Sometimes women don't "get it" either.

Ask Amy: I’m hurt he didn’t respond to my brushoff text

Only sometimes??


I liked her closure approach though, way classier than ghosting.

Thanks. It made me think, but not laugh. I think it'd be still better if she boldly rejected them to their faces, but then again, I'm imagining it from my perspective, which is dominated by two laws:
- Physically assaulting someone is unthinkable, no matter who they are and what they tell me. If I break down, I may cry, yell, jump or flail my arms, but never hit them. Of course, normal people usually interpret this reäction as a threat of physical violence, so I'd better be careful, or someone will preëmptively beat the crap out of me.
- Women are goddesses. Desirable, unattainable, with burning gazes. There are few women I wouldn't like to just start hugging, kissing head to toe and more, but to them I'm a disgusting creepy-crawly at best.
Compared with me, a lot of more-mature-than-me-but-not-quite-mature men are probably used to some success with women, and I can see how they could eventually take rejection as a personal affront and assault the woman, thus making rejection to their faces actually dangerous.

They both seem like reasonable questions to me.

I disagree with the idea that trust is a choice though. You can choose to act like you trust somebody, you can't choose to stop worrying that they are secretly betraying you. If people could choose to stop worrying, nobody would ever worry about anything.

^Yea, I couldn't help but read the other questions and answers too.

Why would they reply?
Sounds like lady just wanted attention.
Most women block me right after sending s rejection if they just don’t block me without rejecting me.

The men shouldn't have to reply. They knew where the woman stood.

It's possible that the men may not reply because they think that the women don't want to hear from them again & the guys don't want to intrude. I would debate that if I've gotten a rejection text like that after one or a couple dates. I'd want to be polite cuz it's the rite thing to do & there's a slim chance she'll change her mind later on but I wouldn't know if the polite thing is to respond or give her space. I applaud this women for sending the guys a text instead of ghosting & wish more women did that but she really has no reason to worry if the guys are being rude or not by not replying. She's not planning on seeing them again so she should just move on.

Yep, it seems pretty reasonable not to reply. After all, when in doubt, a rejection should be read as “From this exact point onwards, any attempt on your part to communicate with me counts as harassment or worse. Expect the full weight of the law to fall upon you. Be very grateful if it doesn’t fall on you simply because I catch the slightest sign that you still exist.”

I didn't laugh at this. If anything, I nodded in understanding of the woman's feelings and more so in agreement of Amy's response.