I think I am falling for one of my social workers
Frieslander wrote:
Why did she ask my birthday? No one usually asks my birthday unless they want to do an astrological chart or want to get to know me.
Sometimes it's just a thing to talk about.
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Anyway, it's kind of a bad/strange day in other ways. Nuvigil again. I thought I could handle it today.
Bummer Feel better.
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Frieslander wrote:
I hate this. I feel great chemistry when I am around her. But, she is married and has two kids (one of them Autistic). She is so darned nice! And, today she asked me my birthday. So strange. I've never had a social worker ask that of me.
Could it be that you just like her because she is nice and make you feel good? That's kind of her job. I think a lot of guys confuse this feeling with love or a crush but it's neither, it's just a woman being nice to them.
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Chronos wrote:
Frieslander wrote:
I hate this. I feel great chemistry when I am around her. But, she is married and has two kids (one of them Autistic). She is so darned nice! And, today she asked me my birthday. So strange. I've never had a social worker ask that of me.
Could it be that you just like her because she is nice and make you feel good? That's kind of her job. I think a lot of guys confuse this feeling with love or a crush but it's neither, it's just a woman being nice to them.
I know a lot of people I think of as "nice". However, she has the special something that can't put into words.
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Frieslander wrote:
Chronos wrote:
Frieslander wrote:
I hate this. I feel great chemistry when I am around her. But, she is married and has two kids (one of them Autistic). She is so darned nice! And, today she asked me my birthday. So strange. I've never had a social worker ask that of me.
Could it be that you just like her because she is nice and make you feel good? That's kind of her job. I think a lot of guys confuse this feeling with love or a crush but it's neither, it's just a woman being nice to them.
I know a lot of people I think of as "nice". However, she has the special something that can't put into words.
I´ll have to go with the previous posters advice if she is married and its her job to be nice to you then this chemistry is probably only existant from your point of view and she is just being nice same way she treats most of her cases.
As for the birthday thing, due to social networking sites showing my birthday Ive realized that most people that care enough to look at it are those that barely know me and are trying to know me better.
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Frieslander wrote:
Chronos wrote:
Frieslander wrote:
I hate this. I feel great chemistry when I am around her. But, she is married and has two kids (one of them Autistic). She is so darned nice! And, today she asked me my birthday. So strange. I've never had a social worker ask that of me.
Could it be that you just like her because she is nice and make you feel good? That's kind of her job. I think a lot of guys confuse this feeling with love or a crush but it's neither, it's just a woman being nice to them.
I know a lot of people I think of as "nice". However, she has the special something that can't put into words.
I will concur with what others have said above. But as a thought experiment, let's say you're right? Let's pretend she might have some feelings for you. Do you really want to be the guy that breaks up her marriage? That puts her kids through such turmoil? If her marriage is on the rocks, isn't best that she divorce because it's the right choice for her, not because she wants to hook up with some other dude?
spongy wrote:
Frieslander wrote:
Chronos wrote:
Frieslander wrote:
I hate this. I feel great chemistry when I am around her. But, she is married and has two kids (one of them Autistic). She is so darned nice! And, today she asked me my birthday. So strange. I've never had a social worker ask that of me.
Could it be that you just like her because she is nice and make you feel good? That's kind of her job. I think a lot of guys confuse this feeling with love or a crush but it's neither, it's just a woman being nice to them.
I know a lot of people I think of as "nice". However, she has the special something that can't put into words.
I´ll have to go with the previous posters advice if she is married and its her job to be nice to you then this chemistry is probably only existant from your point of view and she is just being nice same way she treats most of her cases.
As for the birthday thing, due to social networking sites showing my birthday Ive realized that most people that care enough to look at it are those that barely know me and are trying to know me better.
Oh, I know that she's married and supposed to be off-limits. I've had contact with a number of social workers over the years... I am a client of an ACT (Assertive Community Treatment) team, where I get to know everyone on a 7 - 8 member team. There have been some women who were very nice, some very physically attractive, some both.. .but I never ran across one like this.
AsteroidNap wrote:
Frieslander wrote:
Chronos wrote:
Frieslander wrote:
I hate this. I feel great chemistry when I am around her. But, she is married and has two kids (one of them Autistic). She is so darned nice! And, today she asked me my birthday. So strange. I've never had a social worker ask that of me.
Could it be that you just like her because she is nice and make you feel good? That's kind of her job. I think a lot of guys confuse this feeling with love or a crush but it's neither, it's just a woman being nice to them.
I know a lot of people I think of as "nice". However, she has the special something that can't put into words.
I will concur with what others have said above. But as a thought experiment, let's say you're right? Let's pretend she might have some feelings for you. Do you really want to be the guy that breaks up her marriage? That puts her kids through such turmoil? If her marriage is on the rocks, isn't best that she divorce because it's the right choice for her, not because she wants to hook up with some other dude?
I was trying to think of a way to say exactly this.
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TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
AsteroidNap wrote:
Frieslander wrote:
Chronos wrote:
Frieslander wrote:
I hate this. I feel great chemistry when I am around her. But, she is married and has two kids (one of them Autistic). She is so darned nice! And, today she asked me my birthday. So strange. I've never had a social worker ask that of me.
Could it be that you just like her because she is nice and make you feel good? That's kind of her job. I think a lot of guys confuse this feeling with love or a crush but it's neither, it's just a woman being nice to them.
I know a lot of people I think of as "nice". However, she has the special something that can't put into words.
I will concur with what others have said above. But as a thought experiment, let's say you're right? Let's pretend she might have some feelings for you. Do you really want to be the guy that breaks up her marriage? That puts her kids through such turmoil? If her marriage is on the rocks, isn't best that she divorce because it's the right choice for her, not because she wants to hook up with some other dude?
I was trying to think of a way to say exactly this.
Oh, I'm not going to pursue it. If she does break up down the road, and there really seems to be something there, then I'll talk about it.
Darn it, why can't I find someone just like her?
Frieslander wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
AsteroidNap wrote:
Frieslander wrote:
Chronos wrote:
Frieslander wrote:
I hate this. I feel great chemistry when I am around her. But, she is married and has two kids (one of them Autistic). She is so darned nice! And, today she asked me my birthday. So strange. I've never had a social worker ask that of me.
Could it be that you just like her because she is nice and make you feel good? That's kind of her job. I think a lot of guys confuse this feeling with love or a crush but it's neither, it's just a woman being nice to them.
I know a lot of people I think of as "nice". However, she has the special something that can't put into words.
I will concur with what others have said above. But as a thought experiment, let's say you're right? Let's pretend she might have some feelings for you. Do you really want to be the guy that breaks up her marriage? That puts her kids through such turmoil? If her marriage is on the rocks, isn't best that she divorce because it's the right choice for her, not because she wants to hook up with some other dude?
I was trying to think of a way to say exactly this.
Oh, I'm not going to pursue it. If she does break up down the road, and there really seems to be something there, then I'll talk about it.
Darn it, why can't I find someone just like her?
I know, seriously! I've had similar thoughts about women I've met. I think I've found my 'soulmate' three or four different times now, but she's always taken. hahaha.
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