Aspergers Girls and the concerns of Falling In Love

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I'm in my early twenties and I'm just a fledgling in this department and I'm quite concerned with having Aspergers will I be able to be like your typical girl and fall in love?

I know that I actually like this guy and its mutual on his behalf aswell. I like this guy but there is no feelings of love, I feel a genuine happiness when his presence or even when I am away from him thinking about him, I enjoy spending my time with him and my heart beats faster like any other person, based on an Aspergers girl does it take a while to fall in love and how do you when you are in love, will your partner read the tell tale signs before you do?

One of my biggest concerns is that will I ever truly fall in love like an everyday girl or will my love be a different kind of love from everyone else.

This is such an exciting time however I'm also so concerned as I really want to respect and nurture this guys feelings and I don't want to reciprocate something in which I do not feeling but I also want these feelings to 'hurry' up so to speak so we can be boyfriend and girlfriend, we've only been friends for 7 weeks, its all happened so fast.

Please reply girls, I need your help and also guys feel free to tell your experiences if you are dating an Aspie girl.

Thank you

Sadly, this seems to be what most inexperienced Neurotypicals call love. I wouldn't worry about it; many times, people don't start truly loving each other until they've been dating for a while.

Whatever you do, don't confuse it for unconditional love.

From your description, I think you have a "crush" on this man. "Love" comes later, when you get to know each other and have trust and emotional intimacy.

In my opinion, of course.

Crushes are wonderful.

Don't make an emotional investment or commitment you can't handle, give it time to see how your relationship and bond with him develops. I don't think there's a secret feeling for love, I think love is sharing a mutual understanding of shared trust, faith and respect.