Your biggest crush turning out to be your worst enemy

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Has this ever happened to someone on here? How did you feel about it?

Hard to tell, mate. You aren't giving us much to work with.

Especially after they found out how I felt at least they were a friend now they are avoiding me and accusing me of avoiding them. I really do not know what to do.

Yes, I ran into to this problem many years ago.
That was quite the fallout we had, was a shame we were never able to reconcile.

Well I used to be bullied at school for not doing any attempt at socializing yet expecting everyone to be friends with me. Turns out this random chick used to terrorize me for being a lonely loser and spends like half her time on the playground harassing me. I really loathed her except for the fact that she was just so damn freaking hot. Well the story doesn't really reflect the subject of this thread 100% but it made me think about this subject so I wanted to hear if any other people had similar stories to this subject.

Edit: :facepalm: at the amount of times I used the word "subject" in this post.

Kind of.

One tried to split me and my first GF up (which isn't a bad idea now), and I got her back...so we were feuding.

Several times over - for a moment, I thought this thread was directed at me...

But it's not them, it's me, that's why I no longer date.

Yup. Don't know what I saw in her, really, especially considering she's got all the worst traits in plain sight,. Guess my infatuation with her was more shallow than anything else. I'm glad she's gone.

Yup. She and I were dating for the better half of a year, but all it took was 2 months of long-distance after she moved and our relationship went straight to hell. Now I'm pretty sure that if we ran into each other in town, we'd try to kill each other on the spot.

Or at least things would be simpler if she tried... that way I can invoke self-defense as an excuse for putting a bullet in her head... problem is she's one of those people who makes a career out of ruining people's lives from a minimum safe distance. Pro tip, never, ever, EVER, date a girl who's an internet troll, especially if they're one of those people who can hold a grudge for years.

Yep. We lived in the same house and I tutored her in math. At first she would just occasionally say mean things to me but then she started being mean all the time. I was glad when she moved out. She friended me on facebook a year or so ago. It boggles the mind.

It sounds like she wants to keep some kind of connection, but probably a casual one where you are acquaintances for informational purposes. Try not to put too much emotional value into the Facebook friendship. Or if all your Facebook friends need to have more of an emotional connection, considering removing in a year or so unless things change. Don't think of it as an ultimatum, but feel the situation out. It's not easy to feel a situation out for people like us, so the best thing you can do is ask you people whose advice you feel you can take into consideration. The decision is yours in the end.

No, if I don't like somebody's behaviour and personality, I don't consciously feel any sexual attraction towards them at all.

Crushing is wrong. There ought to be a drug to control it. Experience helps.

The chick I lost my virginity to, the thought of her makes me furious. Yet i still haven't let her go. I'm almost certain she f****d one of my friends, and I know for sure she f****d another guy within the week I gave her my virginity. She apologized months later, I never responded. Her actions are unforgivable, I blame myself for thinking that people can change. once a crack whore, always a crack whore.

I've had a situation that sounds like that one, where I got LJBF'ed by a crush, but then she realized how much of a pushover I was and started to treat me badly for her ego's benefit. I cut off all my dealings with her for a month, until she approached me and said she was tired of fighting. Her behaviour was much nicer after that so... asserting yourself is good I guess.

Some women I have had crushes on in the past turned out to be horrible people but the only difference is I never perused them and others have and suffered the consequences. I dodged some bullets so to speak. There are times where my shyness and distrusting actually pays off.

sometimes its better to feel the pain for the sake of having the experience my friend. I would never pursue a lesbian drug addict again, but It made for a good story and some valuable experience.