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Pokelover14
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27 Mar 2012, 11:42 pm

How can I empress this NT girl I know from church. Is there a way to hide stims or magically make me unweird. I don't want her to think I'm different or strange. I have tried but when ever I talk to her (you haven't talked) I just stand there because I don't know how to start a proper conversation or keep from rocking (one of my stims). Please help. I'm 15 do what do teen girls like in guys.


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27 Mar 2012, 11:54 pm

Pokelover14 wrote:
How can I empress this NT girl I know from church. Is there a way to hide stims or magically make me unweird. I don't want her to think I'm different or strange. I have tried but when ever I talk to her (you haven't talked) I just stand there because I don't know how to start a proper conversation or keep from rocking (one of my stims). Please help. I'm 15 do what do teen girls like in guys.


Girls of any age have certin things they find attractive in men one thing you must do is don't be afriad of being yourself around her doing so she will know that your not intimidated to be around her just get to know her as a friend then try to get to know her on a more then friends level.



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28 Mar 2012, 9:39 am

I was in the same situation but replace church to school. As hard as this sounds it works, first just walk up and say hi. Assuming you know eachother fairly well just start talking about anything, your in a church talk about that. At the end of your conversation ask her if she would like to hang out and get her number. Church is on sundays so that gives you a week before a good free time to talk to her over text or phone if you like. Just start seeing eachother and when it feels right ask her out. If you get her number she likes you and go for it, if she says no don't be too pushy and back off, maybe another time then.

All girls are different but if he talks to you she likes you a little. Maybe give her reason to like you more before asking anything to increase your chances. Compliment her, start talking in church more. Ignore the fear and say "hi", it's hard but I did it and you can too



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28 Mar 2012, 11:18 am

Joker wrote:
Pokelover14 wrote:
How can I empress this NT girl I know from church. Is there a way to hide stims or magically make me unweird. I don't want her to think I'm different or strange. I have tried but when ever I talk to her (you haven't talked) I just stand there because I don't know how to start a proper conversation or keep from rocking (one of my stims). Please help. I'm 15 do what do teen girls like in guys.


Girls of any age have certin things they find attractive in men one thing you must do is don't be afriad of being yourself around her doing so she will know that your not intimidated to be around her just get to know her as a friend then try to get to know her on a more then friends level.


That's great advice.
I'm weird as all hell and girls tell it to my face, yet I still get with them. I suggest reading up on evolutionary psychology and PUA. And also don't get too obsessed with this one girl, hard advice to take at 15 I know, but trust me I've been there too ;)


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