Okcupid tip- if they ignore you deliberately... ;).

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... then shame them! (or ignore them back, but i'd prefer shaming them ;p).

IF there is no apparent reason to ignore you.

This is a tip for guys who have been chatting with a girl on okcupid and suddenly they get ignored by her.

This is interesting but sometimes you have to a assertive in a rightful way , even on online dating like okcupid.

There's a woman that i have been chatting with on okcupid, she's 35 and she made it clear she's not interested in younger folks - fine, but i kept chatting her anyways.

Lately, every time i am sending her a hi, she visits my profile and doesn't reply. So i finally sent her "you know, what you're doing is rude, it's like ignoring someone who's saying hello in your face"

She replied after minutes!!

She said sorry and her reason that she's only wanting to use okc for dating and doesn't want to waste time. We kept chatting for a bit after that tho.

Fine - the point is that i made her reply.
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this happened to me on okcupid several times

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This also happened with with a woman i know in real life and for some reason, she kept ignoring me on msn for almost two days, yet she was online green and active on FB, she even ignored my 'are you there?' whatsup messages - something that she always did when i take long to reply her, that's why i did it once, yet she ignored it.

She kept ignoring till i sent her on msn "Stop ignoring me, shall you? I am talking with you!"

She replied after seconds, apologizing, and told me a she's having a hard time ..etc etc.... the convo went smooth, deep and funny more than ever.
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The thing is, dear guys, that women on online dating have been used to get a lot of attention, there's a lot of supply for them, so huge that they view most guys as "dispensable objects" - so they just ignore them en masse, they have no other choice actually.

but if you were exchanging messages with her with a while or been an online buddy of her, then you, as a human being, is also entitled to be respected, and deliberately ignoring you is a lack of manner/respect.

So sometimes, it's good to "shake", to make her fall from her high cloud, and remind her that you're not just an another dispensable subject and that you're a human being too. It's also good to not be beggy and show her you have a backbone and pride, therefore you should demand mutual respect.



So if they ignore you deliberately, ignore back or just shame them .

If they ignore me and keep doing it I will give them a real reason too that works much better plus you can make a game out of it

That's completely pointless. They're just being polite and are trying not to look bad. They really don't care if they ignore you in the first place. You've just made them feel a bit bad. Pointing it out doesn't mean anyone is going to want you any more.

Or she could just have 138+ emails in her inbox & 100+ people trying to chat to her.

I never met anyone off these sites. Like going into a night club, instead of a supermarket.

I met people on other things, but never a dating site. Also you might end up been banned, if you start harassing.

OKcupid, has a great website. Never seen such a website be so not transparent.

It's a dating site, she has made it clear that she want's to use it for dating. Not a social networking site.

I have been okcupid for a few mouths and has work for me. I had the same thing happen to meet. I actully had date with a girl, meet her, thouht the date whit well and never hear from her again.

when that happens, I just move on to some one else. It is easy to meet people on okcupid, I already meet two other girls next week and one wants to hock up.

Some @sshole who kept messaging me when I was either too busy or uninterested to reply would find himself blocked.
Let alone someone who DEMANDED I talk to him.
F*ck that.

I got ignored a lot on dating sites after sending each other a couple messages. I never felt like sending them messages calling them out on it thou because why would I want to waste my time trying to start a relationship with a girl who's going to ignore me? Even if we did somehow manage to get in a relationship; she would probably still ignore me a lot. I deserve a partner who won't ignore me & I rather not waste my time on women or friends or anyone else who would ignore me

Last week I sent a message to someone that, according to the checkboxes, was physically exactly what I am interested in. Equally, I met all of her criteria. Her actual profile, however, said nothing about her or what she was looking for, beyond the fact that she was "bored and shy" and was looking for a "respectful guy with spare time on his hands that lives within 70km". My message basically said that while we seemed to be a good match based on all those checkboxes, I wanted to know more about her. She read my message, she looked at my profile, she didn't respond. A few days later I saw that she was online so sent her another message, highlighting the part of my profile that says I only contact one person at a time and would appreciate a response even in the negative. Again, I pointed out that, according to the checkboxes, we seemed like a good match but that they really don't say anything about anyone. She read my message. She looked at my profile. She looked at my profile again. She looked at my profile one more time. Then she replied. I excitedly opened the message and was met with invective. Despite the fact that my profile contains phrases like "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and comments that I am interested in a woman with a brain, she told me that I was extremely superficial and judgemental and that at her age (same as me, 36), she was only interested in herself and couldn't give a damn about what anyone else is doing. Despite my shock, I wrote my usual polite reply in the face of rejection (Thanks for taking the time to respond, best of luck) and found that she had blocked me.

This really hit me for six. I actually lost sleep over her venom and still cannot fathom what prompted it. As near as I can tell, my profile comments that I am not interested in women that are obsessed with fashion, and that celebrity gossip magazines don't count as reading, must have hit a raw nerve because they are the only things that could be interpreted as judgemental. I have decided that her response was not about me at all, but was about her. She's the extremely superficial and judgemental one. It still doesn't change the fact that I was nothing but polite and respectful and she attacked me without reason. What really bites me about this exchange is that she demands respect from people that contact her, but showed anything but in her reply to me. That was simply uncalled for. I have only ever had one other person send me a similar reply and that was about two years ago when I was called a freak and told that I should just kill myself. The others that I have actually been in contact with have either complimented me on my profile or not commented on it either way. I have even had a few women send me messages saying that they weren't interested in me but that they really liked reading my profile and they were certain that I would eventually find someone.

So, that's what I got for sending a message to someone that didn't bother to reply got me.

Two days ago I sent a message to someone else. Again, we match up on the checkboxes, but again her profile contains very little information. She is on my Hotlist and has logged in over a dozen times since I sent the message, including while I have been writing this. She hasn't even bothered opening it yet.