Twenty-two and interested in older black/white women (30+)

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After discovering my interest in African-American women after I turned eighteen years old in 2008, I set the limit for me never to talk about my interest in the Civil War-Reconstruction Era. Now that I'm more older - twenty-two years old, I just recently discovered I have an interest in older - and I mean "older" - women. Either black or white, I seem to can't find an older woman who is interested in me. I have 2 interracial dating profiles, 1 on InterracialDatingCentral.com and 1 on InterracialPassions.com. Plus I have a dating profile on a non-interracial dating website, connectingsingles.com. How I like them is one thing, but the age group is just... staggering. I have no clue how the desire for such an age group came to be.

I can't explain why you're attracted to Black or White women, but I can wager a guess as to why you're attracted to older women. You're looking for a mother figure. Have you ever heard of Oedipus? Oedipus was a Greek king who fought with a man who turned out to be his father, and then met and slept with a woman who turned out to be his mother. He then had children with her, who were also his brothers and sisters. Years later, Freud read this story and coined the term "Oedipus complex." Clearly, you are attracted to women who remind you of your mother.

Older broads usually like younger dudes (hence the whole cougar phenomenon). Is there anything else that might be inhibiting success, like being really fat or having bad hygiene?

The baseline with dating sites is that most people, both men and women, become very superficial and look for the 'normal,' probably boring Ken or Barbie at least in initial presentation.

You might have better luck with a theater group, political group, writing club, a class of some type, etc. The trick is that it has to be something you're interested in anyway. Because being real, and taking medium step by medium step (neither baby step nor giant step) seems to be the coin of the realm.

I think braininess is sexiness!

When I was younger, like in my early 20s, I often found older women much sexier than women my age.

When I was 26, for several months I had a girlfriend who was 30. (although I was more into her than she was into me, and that part was kind of sad)

Now that I'm 49, and even before, it's like my agemates have finally caught up as far as maturity and broader interest in the world.