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hayhayandtaytaysmom
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13 Apr 2012, 2:48 pm

Hi, I have been in this on again off again relationship with my boyfriend going on 9 yrs. I love him with all my heart, but last year after I was ready to give up I learned about Asperger's. I did my research and everything seems to fit him. It all makes so much more sense. I am concerned about our lack of intimacy. He has no desire in that department, and I am extremely lonely without him. He is 33 I am 31 so it's an issue that isn't going away. Does anyone have any advice? Thanks so much



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13 Apr 2012, 6:29 pm

He's not into intimacy, and you are. Sorry it's not a match, unless you enjoy masochism and are willing to accept the status quo. :(

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13 Apr 2012, 6:56 pm

It could very well be that he has Asperger's, and his lack of intimacy is simply part of his personality, not an indication that he doesn't love or care about you. That's not to say he couldn't improve, but if you ultimately feel that he can't satisfy your needs... then it just doesn't make sense to stay with him. Relationships between neuro-typicals and Aspies can be difficult, and for some, it just doesn't work.