Is being yourself a turn off?

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Taken from "is not having friends a turn off", practically that implies that wether you have some problems with socializing, communication and other stuff due to Aspergers or any other reason, is a turn off.

So, by that I also mean issues such as ADHD, OCD, anxiety disorders, bipolar, high sensitivity, social anxiety, etc. I'd say, for most people, especially NTs, a person that has any of these issues is a turn off.

I mean, putting myself in a situation with a potential girlfriend having any of these issues, I'd rather be alone, I have seen some, and I have thought my relationship with her, inside the tiny possibility would be hellish anyway. It sounds discriminatory (I even would go saying everybody discriminates in some way), but that practically is, not to say that I don't have issues, as I am pretty much aware that I'm a turn off to others for same reasons.

No lightie, no likie.
I don't think being myself is a turn off, it's more of a unique part that makes me better than the NT males.

Depending on your personality it is.

To be completely honest with you, if someone doesn't like you for who you are then there's nothing you can do. It's important to keep being yourself and there will be someone out there that loves you for who you are no matter what your personality is like or whether or not you have any disorders or Aspergers.

Why would it ever be a turn off to be yourself? For example, I love my boyfriend. He has Aspergers, for me it isn't a turn off, aspergers is what makes him who he is and I love him for who he is. There are times where yes we have the rough patches but what makes the bond stronger is to get through these things together and then afterwards to decide to still be together after the rough times is what means the most.

Well I find it funny when someone tells you to be yourself. But then starts giving you advice to the stereotypical view of a person. ( Because people do not know when people are social manipulating them into thinking a certain way. )

So been yourself does not really mean it or it would have the same definition of a young relationship. Give a note "Do you like me?. ( Yes or No ) tick one ).

[ Adult Note ]
Its more like "I don't want this, this, this & this, but I will have that, that & maybe that. Then I will work on changing you into this mould. This is my image of a mould, this is what I am going to squash you into, even if I have to force you into it." "If you agree to these terms, Do you like me?" ( Yes or No ).

( Funny how people don't reverse they can change a bad boy & not think they can do it the other way around. )

In reality go for a older person, or you have to wait or find a person that is older when younger. That is sick of the game. Should ask how old females partners are, maybe it will tell you why males are single.

I don't think being yourself is a turn off at all it's a turn on in my opinon.

I don't like myself, but actually, my diagnoses may be at the bottom of the list of things I don't like, they were just odd and unprofessional and don't fit me at all. I do dislike suffering from actual conditions though, like depression.

Personally, it never affected my ability to have connections, even on the contrary.

being yourself isn't a universal turnoff, no. but everyone has issues they can work on that will improve their chances at finding a partner. there is always a chance of finding someone who will like an aspect of us that other people will consider a flaw, but it's riskier.

Just being yourself is not a turn-off, but if your personality clashes with someone else it will eliminate any chances of getting together.

If you are being yourself and you find a sense of value in yourself, you will project yourself as a more positive person. If you aren't comfortable in yourself, you need to learn to find acceptance or understanding in who you are.

So is being yourself a turn off? It depends on the person, beauty is subjective and what is beautiful to one might not be to another so if someone didn't like you, you can't simply say you are unattractive from a universal perspective.

There are also many things you can do to work on yourself and self improvement is always a good way.

I cannot stand fakers. I find not being yourself to be major turn off.

I don't see the big deal being made in that friendship thread. So what if someone hasn't got friends? They're either really introverted or have a hard time socially. There's no reason to use that as some excuse to reject them romantically. Aspies promoting such an idea as just are massive hypocrites.

At one time in my early teens I did think that being myself was a turnoff and made an attempt at changing who I was.
I stopped collecting things, I sold my comics, I got rid off all my records, I stopped drawing, I hung out with as*holes and shunned my nerdy friends to 'trade up', and it didn't get me anywhere.
It's possibly the biggest regret of my life.

Only to someone who doesn't like you.

I think it probably is for some people but not for others.

Ditto, I got rid of stuff so many times
* Music
* Articles, posters etc. - oftentimes purchased really expensively - if not by me, by people who care about me - which is really worse
* Music again
* Dolls
* At least two Snoopy books.

And I can never truly say it was because I wanted to, it mostly gave me pain.
There are probably other things I'm forgetting.

Problem you guys are not thinking about is this:-

http://sheluvsgod.xanga.com/709132482/p ... tionships/

Yes I know some people don't take external manipulation. But that would probably be a lot less than that do. This is what needs to change.