To Hell with it All!

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I have just realised that I am NEVER going to get a long term boyfriend. And every one who says "Don't worry the right person will come along eventually" just pisses me off!

Okay. Mini-rant, I know. But all this sexual politics just sucks.

It gets me angry too. But I think I might have found someone...

Whats the big deal about getting a partner? I was like you guys until I actually got one. Trust me, the build up of expectations really ruins it. You obsess over it until it becomes perfect in your mind and everything you needed. 'My relationship will work forever, I just know I can do it, it'll be so great' and so on. Trust me, it seldom lives up to the ideal. Though I suppose the grass is always greener...

What's the reason for it going wrong ?

That's only because you don't live in the same town as me.

Never say never.

You just did twice...

>>What's the reason for it going wrong ?<<

Is that directed at me?

There's a Green Line for me, out there. I just have to wait patiently at my Bus Stop.

Ping-Machine, what age are you? I ask because I didn't meet someone suitable to marry until I was 31(! !) It's difficult to meet people who understand we ASpies are a bit different. I went through High School, and College without a girlfriend. My mother thought I was ashamed of her, and wouldn't bring my girlfriend home to meet her (! !!???) So give us some more details, like age, how long you've known you're an ASpie, how your dating life has gone thus far, etc.

without trying to sound like a topic hijack. People always assure me that somone will come along eventually, it goes not help me, because there appears to be such a lack of understanding towards AS people. If i ever get someone, i would feel better, because perhaps ii have achieved some understanding.

Well, then Topher, how about someone saying 'you can always re-invent yourself' ??? You can always work to change those behaviors/attitudes that make NT women run the other direstion. I used to dress in the oddest way. I would go to those stores that carry trade-in clothing, and look for shirts and pants that had an antique look. I loved them, but I looked like I'd just walked out of a time machine. It totally turned the girls off. But a friend finally told me that I needed to change this behavior, and 'get with it', so I did. It didn't work immediately, but when I met my wife-to-be, at least I had a bit of a fashion sense.

Lonliness is a hard thing for a lot of people to handle.

Don't get caught in a trap of meeting someone and accepting when they treat you badly just because "At least it's someone." I've been through this lesson. It's painful. It cost me many years. So I keep searching and hoping when I find someone that meets all of my criteria, that I meet theirs as well.