The girl I like or the girl who likes me?

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Well, alright, I'm stuck between asking out a girl whom I really, really like, and have had an interest in since the beginning of school year, and the senior class vice president, whom I think likes me.

The former is really creative, talented, and funny. She's in band and drama, and excels at both. No, she doesn't just excel at both, she's the very best at both. Every time I've been to see her perform in either she was completely stunning all-around. She's really playful and energetic in the sort of way I like, and her small clique of friends consists of a group of people I like associating with and wouldn't mind getting to know better through her.
Anyway, I actually asked her out once, and got turned down politely, but if I asked her out again I think she might accept (If she's not already with someone else), although I'm not willing to risk it.

The latter, having an important role in student government, is active in something that matters, and seems to be of the same mind as me, since we've had letters to the editor of the city paper printed side by side on the same page on the same topic. She also looks at me for long periods of time as if she's interested. Everytime I walk into the room, she looks up as though she's been hoping to see me, and she's really nice to me. She actually let me borrow her cell phone when my phone's battery burnt out and I had to make an important call.

So do you think I should try to pursue a relationship with the former or the latter?

I'd go with the one who is likely to be interested in you.
There is no point in trying to go after someone who really isn't interested in you.
But remember to not get persuaded by people on an online forum, and make your own decission.

Both, but decide the first based on your heart - Only you can do that part, unfortunately..

We can't compile a list of pros and cons, it wont do ya much good

which one is more physically attractive ? which one is more emotionally attractive? Which one is more attractive overall?

Go for the one that likes you. When it comes to dating, girls (NT girls, at least) usually don't care how much you like them; only how much they like you. So even if you're head-over-heels in love with them, and they're have no interest in you, that's all there is, and there's nothing you can do about it. Sure, she'll be flattered, but the odds of her dating you, if she's not interested, are slim to bupkus. The second girl, on the other hand, already likes you. So if you ask her out, she'll be flattered and go on a date with you. If you two get along, there is a chance of a very nice relationship developing. Even if you're not too crazy about her now, she'll grow on you over time. And in my opinion, the girl that likes you seems nicer anyway.

I'd have to concur. The second girl is already interested in you, whereas the first already knocked you back. That says "I like you, but I don't like you in that way". The second girl, on the other hand, really seems to be into you, so I'd take a risk and ask her out without giving Girl #1 a second glance.

ask the latter girl first..if she says no then try with the former who is going to say no...if you ask the former out first and she says no..the latter is gunna hear of this and think she was second choice.

I would choose whichever one was more emotionally and physically attractive, and whom I had more in common with.

Tim

granted, if I were in your situation I would only approach the girl(s) I were interested in. I don't ever "settle" for things (or people) but that's just my personality.

DUDE ! ! The ONE who likes YOU ! !! I wish I had gotten this through my head when I was YOUNG ! !

THE ONE WHO LIKES YOU ! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !!

Like Duh ?????! !! !!

And keep in mind that any disequilibrium might throw things off; being with someone who likes you more than you like them can create situations where you wind up with the vague feeling like you're doimg something wrong, and the opposite creates situations where you're always unsure of what they feel towards you (more than usual, trust me...)

People have already said what's best: Probably the latter. And besides, which one do you like best? You didn't mention that.

J