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16 Apr 2012, 5:31 pm

husband.

This is a woman I know. You could say I'm pretty messed up. I kept wanting to think 1) she is not really happy with her husband, and 2) that she wants to be with me. But she is pregnant with her third child with her husband.

Yes, Yes, I am repeating myself. This is the same girl I've talked of before, a social worker who helps me.

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16 Apr 2012, 5:41 pm

if a social worker who works with you has sex with you, that is an ethical violation. she would lose her job.

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16 Apr 2012, 5:45 pm

How do you cheat on someone WITH the person you're MARRIED TO?

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16 Apr 2012, 5:46 pm

cathylynn wrote:

if a social worker who works with you has sex with you, that is an ethical violation. she would lose her job.

I know, I know, I know that. What I really want is her to be unhappy with her husband, break it off, and somehow end up with me after she breaks of the social-worker relationship with me. I know that is pretty messed up.

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16 Apr 2012, 5:48 pm

ValentineWiggin wrote:

How do you cheat on someone WITH the person you're MARRIED TO?

It's just a way of looking at things. I wish things were different, is all. I'm not being a literalist, here.

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16 Apr 2012, 5:49 pm

Honestly, i think you should find a new social worker. For your own good man, it sounds as if you have an obsession with her and that never works out well

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16 Apr 2012, 5:51 pm

MXH wrote:

Honestly, i think you should find a new social worker. For your own good man, it sounds as if you have an obsession with her and that never works out well

Agreed, 100%

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16 Apr 2012, 5:52 pm

AScomposer13413 wrote:

MXH wrote:

Honestly, i think you should find a new social worker. For your own good man, it sounds as if you have an obsession with her and that never works out well

Agreed, 100%

Yep!

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16 Apr 2012, 5:56 pm

Marcia wrote:

AScomposer13413 wrote:

MXH wrote:

Honestly, i think you should find a new social worker. For your own good man, it sounds as if you have an obsession with her and that never works out well

Agreed, 100%

Yep!

She's on a team, what they call an Assertive Community Treatment (ACT) team. I don't think I want to switch an entire team after I've gotten to know them, and it would be embarrassing to tell them why I want to switch. I think I would have to tell them why. I'm not dissatisfied with the service; I am in love with *****.

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16 Apr 2012, 6:13 pm

Wow! Have you actually had sex with her? This is a very tricky situation! I have to agree with the previous posters. This is not a healthy therapeutic situation. As a professional she should ignore her feelings for you. But if she wants to pursue a relationship with you, she should stop seeing you professionally. I don't envy you this - very tricky; and then there's her pregnancy ... could it be your child?

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16 Apr 2012, 6:14 pm

Frieslander wrote:

Marcia wrote:

AScomposer13413 wrote:

MXH wrote:

Honestly, i think you should find a new social worker. For your own good man, it sounds as if you have an obsession with her and that never works out well

Agreed, 100%

Yep!

You can just say its personal issues. private manners. etc. you dont have to tell them outright why.

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16 Apr 2012, 6:15 pm

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No, no, no, no, I've never had anything physical with her. I don't know how that impression came across.

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16 Apr 2012, 6:17 pm

You are 'projecting', i.e.
The client finally feels understood, the therapist/social worker is a person who gives care.
The client then wishes to be with them.
It is common, not messed up, to fall in love with someone who gives you the things of the heart that we all need.

You need to get some perspective.
It's not ethically possible for her to be with you, and she is a professional carer.

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16 Apr 2012, 6:27 pm

ThinkTrees wrote:

For me, at least, it is probably at least a little that way. But I also think it is more than that we are friend, and wish it was more than that.

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16 Apr 2012, 6:42 pm

Frieslander wrote:

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No, no, no, no, I've never had anything physical with her. I don't know how that impression came across.

Must be the way my mind works ... There is nothing unusual in having intense feelings for your councilor ... You may even tell her how you are feeling and ask if she can suggest another councilor - although that might be awkward. Is it possible that she is flirting with you? Some therapists aren't as professional as they should be.

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16 Apr 2012, 7:29 pm

Ann2011 wrote:

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Ann2011 wrote:

No, no, no, no, I've never had anything physical with her. I don't know how that impression came across.

She seems a little flirtaceous, at times--not really keeping her professional distance.

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