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18 Apr 2012, 11:42 pm

I've had this happen on multiple occasions now by several different guys. They like to say "sweet dreams" before I go to sleep. I tell them "I'm going to sleep," during text messages (even when I don't respond to them for 5+ hours) and they always insist on telling me this. What does it even mean? I understand the whole "have good dreams," but is there anything else to it? I feel at a loss of words to respond with. I say "You too." What else is there TO say? I'm not interested in any of these guys in a romantic way. Is that supposed to be romantic? Is it only out of friendship? I'm seriously confused. Just annoying when I have literally no idea their meaning behind saying it. Why do they care whether or not I have good dreams? -.-

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19 Apr 2012, 12:01 am

I think it's just meant as a well wishing expression.

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19 Apr 2012, 12:03 am

"Sweet dreams" is just a saying. It doesn't really have any more informational content than "good night".

If any of those guys are trying to hit on you, they aren't doing a very good job.

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19 Apr 2012, 12:05 am

Kinme wrote:

"Sweet dreams!" = "Good night", in most cases. Not much extra meaning behind it, usually. Your response is okay as well!!

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19 Apr 2012, 12:11 am

I really, REALLY don't want to come across as interested... whatsoever. And it seems like the one guy is going on and on about how he really misses someone sleeping next to him. *Sigh*... Anyone know how to respond to that?

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19 Apr 2012, 12:12 am

Ancalagon wrote:

"Sweet dreams" is just a saying. It doesn't really have any more informational content than "good night".

If any of those guys are trying to hit on you, they aren't doing a very good job.

I friggin' hope they aren't... That's the LAST thing I want right now.

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19 Apr 2012, 12:13 am

AScomposer13413 wrote:

Kinme wrote:

"Sweet dreams!" = "Good night", in most cases. Not much extra meaning behind it, usually. Your response is okay as well!!

I hope not. I can never understand what these people mean when they say those kinds of things. Just tell me "goodnight" or "see you tomorrow." I've always associated "sweet dreams" with something romantic because it has "sweet" in it.

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19 Apr 2012, 12:15 am

To me sweet dreams just seems like it is something slightly more personal (in a platonic way too). You can tell a stranger good night or good bye, but you would not usualy tell someoen you don't know sweet dreams

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19 Apr 2012, 12:17 am

Delphiki wrote:

^^^this.

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19 Apr 2012, 12:29 am

Delphiki wrote:

This same guy is telling me that he misses having someone sleep next to him. Can you explain that?

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19 Apr 2012, 12:30 am

Kinme wrote:

Delphiki wrote:

This same guy is telling me that he misses having someone sleep next to him. Can you explain that?

he wants you to sleep next to him.

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19 Apr 2012, 12:32 am

Kinme wrote:

Delphiki wrote:

This same guy is telling me that he misses having someone sleep next to him. Can you explain that?

Um... I have not been in a relationship before. two scenarios. 1. He confides in you because he trusts you and you will say its okay. A platonic relationship. 2. He wants you to be his girlfriend, so eventually you will end up sleeping next to him.

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19 Apr 2012, 12:33 am

hyperlexian wrote:

Kinme wrote:

Delphiki wrote:

This same guy is telling me that he misses having someone sleep next to him. Can you explain that?

he wants you to sleep next to him.

I have no intention or interest in doing that. How can I STOP him from thinking I'm interested?

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19 Apr 2012, 12:34 am

Delphiki wrote:

Kinme wrote:

Delphiki wrote:

This same guy is telling me that he misses having someone sleep next to him. Can you explain that?

I have known him since 7th grade, but we were never close enough to be good friends. How can I prevent him from thinking I'm interested? -.-

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19 Apr 2012, 12:36 am

tell him?

not saying that will change how he feels. And he will be crushed probably, but it will help him move on. And he will appreciate you being forward about it (maybe not at first, but I would like that). But I also wouldn't have texted I miss sleeping next to a girl.

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19 Apr 2012, 12:37 am

Kinme wrote:

hyperlexian wrote:

Kinme wrote:

Delphiki wrote:

This same guy is telling me that he misses having someone sleep next to him. Can you explain that?

he wants you to sleep next to him.

I have no intention or interest in doing that. How can I STOP him from thinking I'm interested?

send fewer and shorter messages and don't tell him details like when you are going to bed (unless he needs to know so he stops talking for the day).

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