Just told a girl

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Well, I just told a girl that I have AS. We've been chatting on eHarmony for over a month, very pleasantly. Then she asked about my hobbies / interests. I had to decide: Do I go the non-AS route, the long, contorting explanations for why my interests are few and intense, or do I just tell her simply and correctly about AS? I decided to mention AS, because it saves SO much time on my part, and probable confusion on her part. I steered her to the Wikipedia article, because it's pretty comprehensive.

In Dallas, where I live, girls want "trophy husbands" as much as guys want "trophy wives" -- people who can be shown-off to all their friends. Well, that's not me, and I felt it was time to let her know that I'm not Mr. Socialite, or who I call "Mr. Plastic". We'll see how she responds... I change my mind weekly about whether I want to get married again anyway, so I can't truly say her response matters to me -- only on an irrelavent, flighty-emotional level.

i've found that mentioning AS isn't always good at first. depends on the girl.

I think, personally, this'll have to be a decision only you have to make. I've got mixed results from both telling people I have AS right away or waiting until later in any sort of relationship. Now, I pretty much tell anyone and everyone as I think there's a chance I might enlighten someone and make them think. The ones who can handle such information and/or wanna know more about it are the ones worth sticking to. If she handles it well, is understanding, and/or wants to learn more after you tell her, then I say stick with her.

Hopefully it'll work out. If not, well, back to ye old drawing board, eh?

I'm glad to hear you had such a pleasant conversation!

ehouch.

heading down a path of sorrow.

Not being a grinch. I'm only saying I don't trust online relationships. even though I've seen sign here that many do work out for those of you here.

First off. It's about trust. and online relationships, they're a thing that you have to wonder about, does this person actually exist, or in all actual reality is it a sick psychopath waiting for his next victim. My friend once said, "Online, all the men are men, all the women are men, all the kids are cops."

Secondly. You don't know any of said person's friends, so you only go on what she says about herself, and never what any of her friends know about her. You don't know if she has any problems, like drugs, alcoholism, or things like that.

Thrid off. You don't know if the person who you're talking to online is the same person you're gonna end up meeting. The girl online could say she's attractive and hot, but the girl you meet in person isn't. it's all about inverted convulsiveness.


So if I come off as negative sometimes, its because I see bad thigns happening for those who could be possibly making mistakes. this is Theory of Romantic Relativity and Relationships number 4

Well, if you really want to get to know eachother, it's good to be open and honest to begin with. If she doesn't like you for being open and honest about being an aspie, then she's probably not the right person for you anyways. It's better to find that out now, than later.

A couple of weeks ago a bloke came over to my house, and he saw this Simon Baron-Cohen book, so I told him about me being an Aspie. He had heard of autism and Aspergers, but he didn't really know that much about it. he started asking me some questions, that was sort of awkward. We ended up having a really nice evening. When he left he kissed me on the mouth. A nice and soft kiss. Not an all passionate "all-I-really-want-is-to-shag-you-kiss", but more like an "I-like-you-I-had-a-nice-time-with-you-kiss"
It's not like we're a couple or anything, we're not even dating (I prefer meet-ups, dating scares the crap out of me), we're just getting to know eachother s l o w l y.

It's true that there are a lot of people out there, that fake their identities. It doesn't mean they all do. There are also a lot of people that hide their true self. It's pretty cool to see you're not like that.

indeed.

hey brahs and sisters.

now i know im just the college kid who is absolutly rediculous does dumb things and often pays for it, big time with me. but y wait till marrage for sex. if you like someone that much and they liike you. y not get in there. i also want to say brah, keep going, loves a kick in the b*lls but it worth it.

go on brah as shakespeare said, "Seek happy nights and happy days." do you want to lose her.

oh also will someone tell me why i keep attracting the wrong women when im after a specific one. is god tryna tell me somate or other. what the hell is up with me.

brother devil