Hypergamy Doesn't Care

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17 May 2012, 5:44 pm

Awesome article. Guys, drop your illusions, make peace with reality and decide on what you really want.

http://rationalmale.wordpress.com/2012/ ... esnt-care/

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypergamy

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Hypergamy doesn’t care how great a Father you are to your kids.

Hypergamy doesn’t care how you rearranged your college majors and career choice in life to better accommodate her.

Hypergamy doesn’t care how inspired or fulfilled you feel as a stay-at-home Dad.

Hypergamy doesn’t care that you moved across 4 states to be closer to your LDR.

Hypergamy doesn’t care how ‘supportive’ you’ve always been of her decisions or if you identify as a ‘male feminist’.

Hypergamy doesn’t care about the sincerity of your religious convictions or aspirations of high purpose.

Hypergamy doesn’t care about those words you said at your wedding.

Hypergamy doesn’t care about how you funded her going back to college to find a more rewarding career.

Hypergamy doesn’t care how great a guy you are for adopting the children she had with other men.

Hypergamy doesn’t care about your divine and forgiving nature in excusing her “youthful indiscretions.”

Hypergamy doesn’t care about your magnanimity in assuming responsibility for her student loans, and credit card debt after you’re married.

Hypergamy doesn’t care if “he was your best friend.”

Hypergamy doesn’t care about the coffee in bed you bring her or how great a cook you are.

Hypergamy doesn’t care about all those chick flicks you sat through with her and claimed to like.

Hypergamy doesn’t care about how well you do your part of the household chores.

Hypergamy doesn’t care about how much her family or friends like you.

Hypergamy doesn’t care if you think you’re a “Good” guy or about how convincing your argument is for your sense of honor.

Hypergamy doesn’t care whether the children are biologically yours or not.

Hypergamy doesn’t care if “she was drunk, he was cute, and one thing led to another,..”

Hypergamy doesn’t care how sweet, funny or intellectual you are.

Hypergamy doesn’t care if you “never saw it coming.”

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17 May 2012, 5:49 pm

I didn't know what hypergamy meant so I did the first thing that came to my head, I Googled it

So...Hypergamy;
1. (Social Science / Anthropology & Ethnology) Anthropol a custom that forbids a woman to marry a man of lower social status
2. (Social Science / Anthropology & Ethnology) any marriage with a partner of higher social status

Considering I don't know any distant relatives of the Royal Family, any "city girls" (that would logically go for someone equally as successful or at least motivated in life and not someone lower like you imply), and certainly don't hang around with wealthy folks I don't think I have this to worry about. This IS how you meant to use the term Hypergamy, right?

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17 May 2012, 5:50 pm

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17 May 2012, 5:53 pm

JanuaryMan wrote:

I didn't know what hypergamy meant so I did the first thing that came to my head, I Googled it

So...Hypergamy;
1. (Social Science / Anthropology & Ethnology) Anthropol a custom that forbids a woman to marry a man of lower social status
2. (Social Science / Anthropology & Ethnology) any marriage with a partner of higher social status

Considering I don't know any distant relatives of the Royal Family, any "city girls" (that would logically go for someone equally as successful or at least motivated in life and not someone lower like you imply), and certainly don't hang around with wealthy folks I don't think I have this to worry about. This IS how you meant to use the term Hypergamy, right?

In the context it is being used, it means using a higher position of social status to attract a mate.

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17 May 2012, 5:56 pm

I see. LOL. Well whatever works for them.
I find some guys put women on a pedestal anyway, without them having to be in a higher class as it is.
Advice I'd give = don't go for someone that doesn't like you. And changing what is essentially you to go for someone you think is in a better league than you may work but it won't last forever.

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17 May 2012, 5:59 pm

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17 May 2012, 6:00 pm

I don't understand what this thread is going for...

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17 May 2012, 6:02 pm

Delphiki wrote:

I don't understand what this thread is going for...

Simple. TO find "love" or a reasonable facsimile thereof, you have to bring something to the table.

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17 May 2012, 6:04 pm

I actually think Ricky's one of the more talented satirists on WP.

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17 May 2012, 6:04 pm

RICKY5 wrote:

Delphiki wrote:

I don't understand what this thread is going for...

Simple. TO find "love" or a reasonable facsimile thereof, you have to bring something to the table.

such as a good personality and a drive in life? (by drive I simply mean you want to learn about something or get better at something)

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17 May 2012, 6:06 pm

RICKY5 wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

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17 May 2012, 6:12 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

RICKY5 wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

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17 May 2012, 6:19 pm

RICKY5 wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

RICKY5 wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

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17 May 2012, 6:29 pm

Is the OP implying that WP users can't use Google?

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17 May 2012, 6:29 pm

The really bad bit about this is, it makes it difficult to find people who are actually right on your level, Culturally-socio-economically speaking. Since the people who are on your level are trying to get someone from the next level up, which then causes you to have to look at the next level down. Both things directly effect others in both of those groups.

And despite its phrasing, you don't have to look for a celebrity or royalty in order to 'marry up'.. If you grew up in a single parent, low income household with poor credit ratings, simply going after a person who lived in a two parent, two income household with high credit ratings and no fear of debt is "Marrying up". Even if you both attended the same schools, you didn't wear the same brands, weren't exposed to the same people, places or things, and likely will find that there are deep rooted problems lying beneath the surface even if your relationship beings auspiciously enough.

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17 May 2012, 6:34 pm

rabbittss wrote:

I think the really bad bit is that people care about what class you are for whether or not you are an "eligible candidate"

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