Crushes are crushing

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The vast majority of the time when you have a crush you;
A. Act upon the crush or show interest and get rejected.
B. Don't act upon the crush but watch the crush with someone else.
C. Don't act upon the crush but watch the crush show you zero attention.

How do you best deal with having a crush without it ending-up crushing you?

Last edited by Bloodheart on 04 May 2012, 7:34 pm, edited 1 time in total.

If it makes you feel any better, unrequited love happens to 98% of the population. Just give it time and you'll find someone you like even more.

It's almost always B for me. I can't even stress how many times I've seen girls that I've really liked but never acted on them in time and see them end up with someone else. It's really frustrating because I never know the answer. To be honest, I think it's much better getting rejected because at least that way you'd know they had no interest so seeing them with someone else afterwards wouldn't be such a big deal. There's a couple people I know where I always wondered "If only I asked them out before the other guy did." One particular women I feel hard for has dated two men since I've known her and I knew her before either one of those guys did but because I was not aggressive with her, they beat me to her and I have to live with it. I'm stuck as the male friend.

Well that's why they call it a crush. I think it is anyway.

It's always option C for me. I'm very quiet an don't get noticed very much. I wish I would act upon then an get rejected so I can atleast close that book page. I'm happy with my girlfriend now, that is a very true statement. However I used to like a girl, name was makenzie (name hidden from public). Haven't talked I her since 5th grade but I liked her then and moved away. It probably wouldn't have worked but now I regret that I will never see her again, don't even have the confidence to say "hi" on Facebook to see if she remembers me.

If you find out you can tell me.

I had a similar thread a while back. Crushes suck, particularly ones where you can't, won't, or shouldn't act on. The only thing that I found is to just try and ignore it and carry on. Not very helpful, but it is all I got.

Find enough of a reason to hate them for it. No one is without flaws.

Yes, hate them for not loving you, that's totally a healthy and appropriate response to the situation. Everything is better with resentment.

I don't think it would be a bad idea to look for something or some behavior you fine unattractive and try to take them off that mental pedestal. Which can be really hard. At least crushes are one of those things everyone can relate to. Yeah they suck, but they suck for everybody.

I actually have crushes but will not respond to them most of the time. Any girl I like tends to like me ....

But I don't really go looking for the perfect women - instead I seem to idolize straight forward/serious/and aggressive women. Rejection in that case isn't really an issue - I like a girl with confidence because it tends to be something I lack in some regards, and someone who isn't immature. But by immature I mean playing games and/or unclear with feelings.

So

D. I have a crush and ignore their advances/don't understand and regret not acting mildly but do not really feel unhappy by it.

So now you're moving on from flaming to harassment. I wonder if the mods will turn a blind eye to this as well.

^^^this is my usual situation.

how is that harassment? she disagreed with part of your post, then found a middle ground where you actually might agree.

I suppose that's why they call it a crush. More often than not, it's an unrequited infatuation, which completely crushes you.

It's an attack regardless of how it was worded. I did not ask for her opinion on me, nor is that what this thread is for.

I didn't give an opinion on *you* I gave an opinion on *your words* and yes I disagreed with them, I'm evil like that
Dude, its over, let it go, this sustained personal attack / call for my head on a stick is most definitely not what this thread is for or the other one you hijacked with this.
If you feel the need to berate me further by all means feel free to use my inbox.
Stop bothering other people trying to have a discussion with your distaste for me.

Please don't write as if Boxman108 is everyone's enemy. Also, the straw man fallacy (which you use all the time against people who disagree with you) is flaming, allthough it's more passive-agressive than conventional flaming.