Validation

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Is it important for you to be validated by your partner? Not in a constant, needy way; but through gestures or words, how would they achieve this?

I sure think so! ...though the most EFFECTIVE method of validation is going to vary from person to person.

There's a great book that covers the five "love languages"...

Words of Affirmation Language
The first way, according to Dr. Chapman, that people express love is through verbal affirmation. Love is expressed by simply telling one another the positive aspects that are found within the couple and their relationship. For example, words of affirmation can include statements such as, "You are a beautiful person," and "You are my best friend."

Quality Time Language
Couples share their love for one another by spending quality time together. This aspect requires the individuals to focus their attention on one another in ways such as open communication, both listening and speaking, and spending time with one another doing activities that are enjoyed by both individuals.

Receiving Gifts Language
Another language of love that individuals can share is the concept of receiving gifts. Some individuals see the act of providing one another with material objects, regardless of their cost, as an act of love. Without these acts of giving and receiving individuals who use this type of love language will feel deprived of their relationship.

Acts of Service Language
Individuals who express love via the acts of service language are prone to seeing such tasks, like chores and various household tasks, as acts of love. In order for two individuals to experience the acts of service language together, both individuals need to be willing to step outside of their typical household routines and perform one another's tasks for the sole purpose of being kind to one another.

Physical Touch Language
The physical touch language is simply the idea that individuals feel loved and comforted by being in close physical contact with one another in various ways, such as holding hands, hugging, kissing and sexual intercourse. Physical touch between couples can vary depending upon what each individual in the relationship is comfortable with.

validate what, exactly?