Something for the girls

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Not sure how many girls actually use this section, but it is to do with Love and Dating.

Hello Giggles Article read here

"As women, we are called b*****s if we turn down the nice guy that we just don’t have feelings for, but we are considered crazy if we show too much interest. We need to be assertive enough to show confidence, but not too much as to appear aggressive. We need to be fierce, independent women who can cut a deal in the boardroom, but are expected to be sweet and affectionate in the bedroom. We strive to be the cool girlfriend who is so low maintenance that she is practically one of the guys, but is still incredibly feminine and sexy."

Thought this was quiet interesting. What a to do?

How true. Seems like a good writer/good thinker.
Glad your post showed up on the WP front page 'cuz I never would've seen it otherwise.

Okay to read, pretty close minded thinking though.

Guys have same problems as well really, maybe even more so.

I don't think she is denying that men have probelms too, but that isn't to focus of the article. It's taken from a website aimed at women and the articles are all quiet short and to the point. It's simply an article about one woman's romantic experiences as she's grown up.

Everything in life is about balance.

Still, guys here are going to moan and groan anytime they get the chance. Maybe the women's sub-forum would get better responses, as a lot of women don't feel very welcome in this sub-forum.


In response to the article, we're damned if we do and damned if we don't.

the part you quoted in your initial post is a VERY good perspective, that everyone these days are moving out of the gender roles and living their own lives, and how confusing it becomes when trying to be identified as attractive to the opposite gender. its good that her final advice is to go out and be assertive though, since that is where things will progress toward as gender roles become even tougher to define.

with ever increasing methods of quick communication, things get even easier to obsess over. so knowing how to be patient without disappearing is a tough thing to balance.

however shes only 21 so i wouldnt call her "grown up" or very experienced just yet. thats the only negative side i see.

A thousand times this. ^ And that goes for both sides. I sympathize with the author though. Not to discredit the things you guys go through, but damn. As a pseudo-NT who is attracted to Aspies, it feels like a test every minute sometimes. Am I too needy? Am I not needy enough? Ach. It can make a girl want to spork out her eyeballs!

Dammit! cut my hand trying to punch through the glass ceiling....