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06 May 2012, 2:23 pm

... but someone almost almost seems to want to. Amazing. She is very beautiful, very kind, and she somewhat thinks the the way I do (we understand each other pretty well, at least) but does not have Asperger's or any other ASD. (She does, however, have depression, which is treated well as far as I can tell.)

She knows I don't have a car, a job... all that stuff... including that I an ASD (PDD) which involves an element that is like having an early-in-life schizoaffective disorder, and she seems o.k. with it. I don't see all that much good in myself, except that I'm a pretty nice person--if I'm allowed to say that.

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06 May 2012, 2:27 pm

You got the eyes on the prize, Fries? =D

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06 May 2012, 2:33 pm

PastFixations wrote:

You got the eyes on the prize, Fries? =D

The way I interpret "eyes on the prize", I would say 'no'.

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06 May 2012, 2:37 pm

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As an NT female (who suffers from depression that is being treated) hopelessly in love with an Aspie male, I can tell you that while the rest of the world may only see the Aspie behaviors, there are those of us out here who see right through them, to that "pretty nice person" on the inside, and it draws us in. She sees something in you that is attractive, worthwhile and good. The fact that she knows about the "other stuff" (job, car, ASD, etc.) and looks past those things speaks well of the depth of her character, and I sincerely wish you all the best!!

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06 May 2012, 2:39 pm

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Thanks! Sweet thing to say.

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06 May 2012, 3:43 pm

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You got the eyes on the prize, Fries? =D

The way I interpret "eyes on the prize", I would say 'no'.

=O How dare you? I was merely stating her as your prize.
That is considering how I remember how you felt when it wasn't happening for you.

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06 May 2012, 3:57 pm

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You got the eyes on the prize, Fries? =D

The way I interpret "eyes on the prize", I would say 'no'.

=O How dare you? I was merely stating her as your prize.
That is considering how I remember how you felt when it wasn't happening for you.

Nice that you remember how I felt before. I don't think of women as prizes, though--just not my thing. They're humans. Fellow humans. Not something to be won, but a person with whom to have a relationship.

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06 May 2012, 4:21 pm

I hope she isn't another social worker :-/

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06 May 2012, 4:52 pm

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I hope she isn't another social worker :-/

Thanks, Boo.... [sarcasm] Nope, I met her on okcupid, and she is a nurse (on a floor that has almost nothing to do with psychiatric disorder).

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06 May 2012, 4:57 pm

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I hope she isn't another social worker :-/

Thanks, Boo.... [sarcasm] Nope, I met her on okcupid, and she is a nurse (on a floor that has almost nothing to do with psychiatric disorder).

Ok, well..

Don't get your hopes TOo high unil there's really a date.

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06 May 2012, 5:07 pm

Frieslander wrote:

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You got the eyes on the prize, Fries? =D

The way I interpret "eyes on the prize", I would say 'no'.

=O How dare you? I was merely stating her as your prize.
That is considering how I remember how you felt when it wasn't happening for you.

I want to give you the highest of fives.
Good luck.

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07 May 2012, 4:53 am

Well, she is quite heavy... sometimes I think I don't find her attractive because of that. She has a beautiful face, though.

And Boo: we already had an almost-date: we met at a coffeehouse and sat and talked for about 1.5 hr. We text and talk "all the time".

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07 May 2012, 6:27 am

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That coffeehouse meetup sounded like a date. If you feel a connection with each other be happy.

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07 May 2012, 8:53 am

Oh my goodness, Frieslander! This is fantastic! Best of luck!! ! :thumleft:

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07 May 2012, 10:29 am

Yes! I am happy for you.

In my opinion, having interacted on a support group for women in relationships with abusive men for over a year now, I think that any man who's "a nice person" or "a good person" deserves to find love.

There are so many heartless guys out there that can con a woman into thinking they're something they aren't, that every genuine guy has something going for him, regardless of his other positions in life.

You sound like a nice guy and I hope it works out for you. Remember, compassion and kindness (and general "goodness") are some of the most valuable treasures in the world. That's why most of us choose to get into a relationship, because we are looking to share ourselves with a good person. So don't cut yourself too short.

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07 May 2012, 11:16 am

Frieslander wrote:

Perhaps I should consider this option as a way to change my mindset.

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