oddness wrote:
Since Ive been researching AS Ive come too believe me and my dad are both on the spectrum although mildly. We are certainly different to my sister and mother who have friends and enjoy social gatherings etc.
Me and my dad can read each others thoughts and are quite comfortable with sitting in silence with each other. If I help him with DIY I usually know what tool he needs or when he wants me to help in some way without him even needing to say. I could finish most of his sentences but my mum and sister couldnt but they could finish each others.
I have been considering what attributes I want my my future husband to have and I would like him to have the same connection with me as I have with my dad.
But do you think that is unrealistic?
Or if it is realistic to expect, do you think being able to predict each others thoughts takes time to develop or do you need to find someone who thinks the same as you do in the first place?
its not unrealistic, i can read my partners thoughts. we seem like massively different people to others, but we aren't - we are more like one person. Yet we live very independent lives.
I couldn't read his thoughts at first, as we think quite differently. But that is superficial. I think the most important thing is to me is shared values, then a passion for communication, honesty, learning and compromise and how all that brings you close. Then you can read minds and its a massive thrill.
In many other ways we are really really different (culturally, thinking patterns, social needs), but we are physically and emotionally and intellectually and exact fit.
18 May 2012, 3:10 pm
