Do NT/AS relationships fair better then AS/AS relationships?

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I've only ever met a couple of AS people in my life and all of them were guys so far.
So I've yet to even come across a female AS.

but anyway heres my feeling's on this from my limited experiences.

When I get the courage to even ask a girl out its basically means I probably have a semi good idea that she atleast likes being around me because at that point she has talked to me atleast a few times already and so I've known her for awhile (not a big risk taker)

I have so many problems keeping a conversation flowing especially like basic SMALL talk and stuff you do when your out like at a dinner or whatever that I kinda enjoy when a girl is doing most of the talking it just comforts me an lets me pretend to blend in better

I dont care really what it is about usually as long as it takes away from my anxiety that I have usually to even say pretty much anything stupid, I usually just try to fit in best I can with the conversation but I like her to lead it usually.

So far all of my relationships have failed due to communication problems and stuff yeah usually ends with her telling me its over after awhile and blah blah blah I wasn't the typical NT etc etc an that point she makes rude faces at me everytime im around her

So whats your input on this is it better to pursue someone more on my wave length and risk have a socially awkward relationship? or should I just keep trying to find a NT who can understand me a bit better?

I feel AS person may understand me better obviously i feel a date with a AS person would be incredibly difficult since I would still be unable to initiate anything at all.

I'm curious if anyone has an AS/AS relationship or somethin like that an it works alot better then dating the vast amount of NT's out there?

What's an AP?

srry I meant AS ones not I was just got mixed up writin the post for aspergers ill fix it right now

Statistics show that AS/NT relationships fail more often then NT/NT, thats all I know.

I think AS/AS relationships are harder than AS/NT ones and NT/NT ones because what if both of them were inflexible, they might not be willing to give in on each other, what if both of them are literal, I think there is different kinds if literalness, there be tons of misunderstandings and miscommunication, and the aspies might think each of them don't care for each other because they aren't picking up on each other's emotions or cues. Each of them might not express themselves like not know how to show their emotions so it drive each other crazy because it feels like their partner has no feelings.
And what about lack of empathy, each of them might hurt each others feelings and not really care because they don't understand what they said wrong or know how to handle their partner's emotions so they appear cold. And what if they both needed lists and schedules. One aspie plans to go somewhere and the other aspie doesn't know when they are going to leave so the aspie is anxious so he keeps bugging his aspie gf "Are we going yet?" "Can we go yet?" and the wife does the same thing to her aspie bf when she makes plans because they don't know when they are leaving and they can't calm down until they know the time so they would know what to do in their routine. My last boyfriend never had a time limit of when we were leaving and it drove me crazy so I acted like a Jeff. I didn't know when to expect it. We were both on the spectrum and it didn't work out between us. My traits embarrassed him and me. There were other problems too which I won't go there.

i'd like an NT actually maybe i'm discriminating aspies [lol] because i've never met any yet except myself, but i'd hate to have someone very similar to me. i'd like an NT who can understand me and knows all about aspies. thank goodness not all NTs like to talk a lot. but i always welcome good sense of humour =P

NT's seem to just choke the life out of me. I don't want one.

My old sociology tb, can't find it at the moment, gives stats on all marriages. The divorce rate is 50% 1st marriage, 75% 2nd marriage, and 95% 3rd. Note to self: I must think before "I do."

Sorry, I strayed from the topic.

-Ozzy

Many NTs are lying cheaters, so I am for AS/AS relationships.

Tim

Not all aspies have the same difficulties. If you find someone to balance it out, it can work. There are positive and negatives with both.

If you come across a NT who can't accept you for you and thinks you should conform to their ways and thinks you just aren't trying hard enough, that's not good.

If you come across a NT who can accept you and is patient, that is good but you can't expect the NT to fully get you just like you can't expect the NT to think you should completely get the NT.

If you come across an aspie who has all of the same problems that you have and the two of you have conflicts over it, the two of you upset and bother each other and there is a communication problem, that isn't good.

If you come across an aspie that has some of the same issues as you do but is understanding and you in return are understanding and you both help out each other in the process, that is complimentary and good.

The same goes for NT and NT relationships. Alot of times people try to find others with common ground, someone to relate to. NT's do it, aspies do it too. A Mutual understanding and a bond is what keeps it all worth while for the long run.

I think earlier diagnoses for people would help Aspies to know what they're working with so that they know what their weaknesses are and have the tools to counteract them.