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Hi there

It's along time since I've been here but, here I am

I've just signed up to one of these dating sites this ones called Plenty Of Fish, I was just wondering if anyone here has had any success with these sites. It's just I'm finding it difficult to find things to say when I message someone, I did get a reply but I think I just bored her and she hasn't got back to me again. We had a conversation (about 15 messages all in all) and I think she, like most of the girls on there just "want to have a laugh". Are these sites suited for aspies? does anyone else have a problem when it comes to finding things to say? especially when it comes to cracking jokes. I been single for 6 months and now live on my own, it's gettin' lonely here

I found more success by meeting people on Wrong Planet. It's far easier. The majority of the people I talked to were either looking for sex, I had no interest in, or some other reason I don't feel like getting into. I hope it works for you.

I am not sure online dating is an area that Aspies in general would expect to find success. I say this because I personally have a hard enough time judging someone's character in person, much less online, because I take people at their word. It is very easy to look good "on paper" as they say, or talk a good talk online and then actually be a very slimy person in real life.

Even someone I had known online as a friend for a decade turned out to be very different when we started a relationship, he became dysfunctionally paranoid. So I guess in my experience it has not worked.

I tried eHarmony a few years ago in an honest effort to meet someone, however most of the people who responded to my messages were either shut down for scamming or for being inappropriate (ie a guy who would message someone once and then start saying that he loved you, creepy!), and the ONE guy that I had some interesting email conversations with via eHarmony and email disappeared for something like six months and then when he resurfaced he said it was because of his bipolar and he had been too messed up to write back or do anything and his ex girlfriend had been taking care of him. So that was really weird, and not exactly what I was looking for and then he stopped talking to me.

Sorry to be discouraging, maybe it will work for you!

This! When I finally learned how to talk to girls and how to make a connection, I learned the best way for me to flirt is to do it in person. Texting or FB messaging just doesn't work out for me, I don't feel any sense of connection while doing it, I feel like I don't know what I'm doing.

Facebook is basically a dating site nowadays, or at least the governing authority of all relationships, both romantic and friendship. I'd go as far as to say there are more guys wandering around FB looking for girls to start something with than all of the actual dating websites combined. I feel that my lack of success with girls is mostly due to not being active enough in this "social networking" world. I guess that's the way to romantically approach people nowadays, cyberstalk them Anyone over the age of 25 who didn't grow up with this BS should consider themselves lucky for that.