Sometimes I dont mind being touched and others I do mind...?

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I have an NT boyfriend. He is very as I call it, "touchy" he likes to touch and be touched. I am not that way. I normally dont like being touched but I am more "touchy" with him then most people I know. Some times I like hugs and I like when he has his arm around me. Other times I want him to go away and stop touching me. I hate kissing and I hate when he lightly brushes against my skin. There are other times I dont care who it is, I dont want to be touched. And there are times I really love to be hugged/touched. Is that normal for an aspie?

I have no idea if it is, but this same thing happens to me constantly. People outside of my relationship I have to really trust before I want them touching me; it shocks me when they do unexpectedly. It depends on my mood, how sensitive I am that day, or any other number of reasons. This is just what I picked up on. Sometimes I hate being touched, sometimes I love it. Family is about the same. I only accept hugs, etcetera, from certain people in my family.

I dont know how to tell my boyfriend I love it when he hugs me and some times I want him to go away. I tell him he is more like a girl then I am. He gets his feelings hurt easily, he loves kids and wants some of his own and he is always having feelings and emotions.

Just come out and tell him it bothers you. You may hurt his feelings, but he needs to understand that you can't always be touched. Does he understand anything about you being an Aspie?

I love being hugged, if it sustained and it comes from someone I am very familiar with, but I hate light touches, like when someone touches me on the forearm while talking to me.

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