I want to ask for help fixing me up on a date

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Online dating isn't working, and I feel I'm at the end of my rope. I'm just not meeting enough people, and I need to find someone. I'm sick of another weekend alone.

I want to ask friends if they might fix me up. I've known people who met their spouses on blind dates, and maybe I'll find the on this way.

But I'm afraid to ask for help. What if they think I'm pathetic for asking them to fix me up? And what if the date is a disaster and the other person is mad at my friend because he fixed her up with me and not someone better, or more in their league? I don't have many friends and I fear ruining the friendship by involving them in my disastrous dating life...

Is it worth even trying this route?

If your friends are good; I would go for it.

It's very common among NT's (especially female NTs) to ask for a friend to fix you up with someone.

When I'm single, it feels like everyone is trying to set me up with someone, whether I like it or not. It's not much fun getting unsolicited matchmaking services, but if you have someone in your life whose judgement you trust and you're looking to be set-up, I say go for it. I doubt they'll look down on you or think you're pathetic just for asking if they know of anyone for you. Actually, if they care about you and sense you're unhappy being single, they probably would like to help.

Its one way to go but you´d have to work with your way of dealing with expectations.

Almost every thread about a date by you starts expressing how she is your last chance and you are a perfect match because x and y... girls can see that attitude and if there are some friends in common they are likely to tell your friends who will talk with you about your approach(on an ideal case) or pretend they dont know anything and stop setting you up with people(on most cases)