Does he sound interested

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I had recently met a guy and his wife last month through their cousin. He had wanted to add me on facebook and I said "Yes." A few days later, I start getting all these comments on my wall about how pretty I look and all that. He also commented on several photos about how I am a sweetie. Finally, he made a weird comment about his dog needing a ride and gave me his phone number.

A few problems

1. He's married
2. I barley know the guy
3. He appears to be old enough to be an uncle or a grandfather

I know I am feeling paranoid but I am not really comfortable. So I wrote to him and mentioned that I was not available and I was already talking to someone else online which I am. Am I paranoid or is there a red flag?

Red flag.

I agree. I reported him and facebook and blocked him. He had also kept asking me if I wanted to get together with him, whether we could call each other on the phone, and whether we could chat. I told him a few times that a group gathering would be the best and he didn't seem to hear me.

How do I avoid this guy?

I think you did all you could do. This guy is serious bad news, and Facebook is FULL of them (lonely, sad, married guys who are idiots). I have to block people like this all the time. If you block him on Facebook, hopefully that'll be the end of it. If you have to see him in person again, just be sure never to be alone with him and be civil but cold to him (or as polite to him as you would be to anyone else in the group, and no more).

Mention the police.

If you told him to back off, and he doesn't, it's harassment.

Police would scare these men off.

Now this is creepy.

All good suggestions. I especially like the one about the Police!

To be fair, you did leave the door slightly open for him by suggesting a group meeting would be the best thing. You should be more to the point with something like, "Sorry. A rendezvous of any kind with you is inappropriate."

Now that he thinks u interested it might be harder to get rid of him, u have to avoid having anything but small talk with him.

He sounds like he's interested in your body.

Yes I did leave the door open but I started hinting with the group thing. However, he had responded to me openly on my photo albums by saying that wanted me to contact him but he would be busy doing some errands and then go get take his dog for a ride. That is when I went to my private messages and found that he wrote me saying that he wanted to know whether we could chat online or talk. So I responded with a "I don't think I am available." I then told him that I have a boyfriend which I sort of do. I then decided to report him by saying that I didn't like what he was saying and it gave me the option to block. So I blocked.

I had some gut feelings about this guy before he added me when I talked to him at on Saturday when I was hanging out with his cousin. Btw, she is bad new too but I am not dating her. She's a whole other story. I had gut feelings on both situations.

Oh, so he's also stalking you through other online means...

You don't even have to contact the police. Just lie and say you did, or you will.

Make sure you send a clear message that you want to end all contact. If he persists, then keep a record of all the times he is contacting you, and what he says (take screenshots, keep an online record, etc...) so you have something to show the police. In fact, keep a record of all your messages from now on, including you telling him clearly that you do not want him to contact you anymore. Then the police know for sure that it is unsolicited contact.

He basically talked to me on facebook and that was it. I had not given him any phone numbers or other means on contact. I also did not proceed to call him either. As far as I know, he does not have my e-mail address. The only thing that worries me is if he ever tried to get a hold of my mailing address and try to find out where I love. So far I have not seen any signs of it so.