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WHAT DO NT's HAVE THAT I DONT?! I mean some of my friends have gfs, but not me
How do they get the girls not us?! Or maybe aspies aren't suppose 2 fall in love................................. (starts crying like SpongeBob)

hey. I'm an Aspie. and I've had 2 and a half girlfriends...the half was a bi chick who I was good friends with for a long time, and she and I sorta had a thing going.

how old are you? if you're 18. I can understand your dilema. I was 17 and Junior year of high school before I got my first girlfriend.

you just need to be patient.

NT's can read people across the room. ASpies can't read someone face to face. Relax, enjoy your life, brush up on your grooming habits, celebrate your difference, and keep looking.

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Aspies can't read face to face?

sorry mate. but that's a bit of BS, well, maybe since I can. I've mastered it.

Maybe you have mastered it, but for many Aspies, interpreting facial expressions is still quite elusive. The skill can be practiced and mastered, but the idea is that for Aspies it's not intuitive.

If you're looking for a loyal companion you can talk to and not worry about being shunned by, I suggest going to the local shelter and adopting a dog.

What do NTs have that we don't? Purely instinctual social skills... which, far as i'm concerned is both a blessing and a curse. Most never take the time to actually THINK about why they act how they act... where as we don't have a bloody choice if we ever want to be 'accepted'. ^_~

Anyways... if you want a lover, ask yourself why. If it's for companionship, a dog will disappoint you far less. If it's for mindless loveless sex, come around here (Nevada) someday; we have legalized prostitution. ;p

well part of mine is the fact taht I have what would be considered military training. I took eight years of karate, I'm a sharpshooter, I'm a runner, I lift weights.

But yes, I understand for most Aspie that social interaction is hard. But if you shut yourself off from society, then you make it even harder.

I am an aspie. I have had...more relationships than I care to remember.

sometimes, it is easy to fall back on a "something" and blame it. why not trying looking past the AS....and seeing what else might me in your way?

>>you just need to be patient.<<

It's not all about waiting. He needs to take charge. Learn the skills and put in the effort Jimmy. Be active - we Aspies have to fight harder to get what we want than most.

this happened to me to... and i tore myself up over it like u....for years....to no avail...
i kid u not at one point all my male friends had gf's...and i went on holidays with them all and their gf's...and became very depressed....sat alone alot and cried.....1 time one of the gf's approached me and said...awww whats the matter with chu? i started thinking very dark thoughts at this point eheh

then i gave up...thought fukit!!...not for me...i'll just focus on other stuff and be alone..

a few months later..at uni(was 20 by now) ...an aspie gal(one of the tomboy type ones)...found me(neither of us knew at the time of said aspiness) and yeah i got a gf

so i think if there is any moral to the story from my experiences atleast.....tis don't try to force it....give up...fall in luv with urself....cry a river of sorrow...make some beautiful art becos of it in a way that no NT will ever approach....then mebbe one day it will happen for u.....i hope so m8! (also realise...if/when it happens...after some time...u will prolly try to work out ways to be alone again eheh..such is the aspie dilemma!)

also take solace in nature,music,great quotes etc.... try to feel like u and the earth r one...and that u r not based on how many others like u/don't like u etc...

hope this helps...

im 15

I'm 16 & already receiving gray hair. I still do not have a gf but given the fact most of the girls at my HS are bi-curious, where can I meet a cute Aspie girl?

what the heck does that have to do with anything JR?

Not really hard to do if you are female. In our society males have to be the aggressor which takes quite a lot of the skills aspie are particularly lacking in. As a female you really don't have to do anything but look ok and you are guaranteed to get hit on, asked out, etc.

Imagine trying to ask out a girl when you can hardly look at her, and you have a flat voice that expresses very little emotion, and you have a social stigma of "weirdness." But as a AS female you will get asked out and the NT guy will be thinking "she's shy, that's cute."

I'm sorry, but that is just not true, mixing Aspergers and Dating is Not easier just because you're a girl.
Sure, some guys will think you are shy and cute or even weird but fun, but others will think you are a frigid b***h or messed up and easy. I beleive it is solely dependent on the person, not their sex.
JNR, i wouldn't worry about not having a girlfriend, most relationships at that age, in my experience, last about a week. As well as that, there are many people who do not have As or any sort of communication problems who have never had girlfirends.
Anyway, hate to be a cynic, but Love is just a concept, i wouldn't be stressing about it.