venting/asking for advice.

Post Reply New Topic

As I'm sitting here thinking of an old friend ( whose name was Braun ) whom I was close to in high school, I cant help but feel sad because our friendship has long been dead and will never prosper again, not that I havent tried. I have, but to no avail. He still hates me for " putting " him in mental health, but what am I to do when someone I love tells me they want to die after their friend just commited suicide? Just sit there and possibly watch a chain reaction? hell no. So I let a counselor at school know of our conversation they told his parents and they took it from there his parents put him in mental health not me.

Yet he blamed me hated me, detested me. Yet a few months later working a haunted house he got down on his knees apolpgized and forgave me and even thanked me.
But I felt that was just a show for our friends to keep things from being weird becuse shortly after he stopped talking to me. and till this day ( tho its been a few years now ) he's still telling his gf what I did and that he doesnt like me.

I talked to his gf whom I'm friends with. But she chalked it up to him being bipolar.

Sometimes he still crosses my mind but when he does all I can do is cry, because even the once happy memories just now hurt me.

I now feel that the friendship I had with him was nothing more than a lie and put simply that kills me, tho I don't get why he still crosses my mind?
Its been over a year sense we've spoken. I even tried to reach out to him when I went into mental health, thinking he would understand.... but again he did not respond and that was the last thing I really sent him.

My boyfriend says to leave him in the past and believe me I try, It hurts him when I bring up Bruan because of all the hurt he has done to me. I just don't understand why he still crosses my mind, I suppose in a way, I miss that lie. thats the only way it makes sense to me, but how can someone miss what was never real?

I'm debating writing him on FB to give one final goodbye to him but what use would that be? It would do nothing but make Bruan feel like crap hell I don't even think it would do that for him, I don't think I even cross his mind in passing except for when someone brings up when he was in mental health. At which point all he does is talk about how he hates me.

I would let it rest. If anything you are harbouring a guilt because of the way he feels about you since entering mental health counselling and such.
To put it frankly you felt you made the right choice, and you can't live with him being so bitter about that choice you made because he was once close to you.

Don't worry if he says bad things. End of the day there are 2 sides to every story, and nobody likes being deprived of what they want or being made to be smaller. I mean nobody. How this friendship turned out was inevitable.

I would just let it go, even if he can't. Ask yourself, would you feel differently if he didn't resent you but still went through the same process of abandoning you as a friend?

I suppose so. Even back then before all of that happened between us deep down I always had a feeling that our friendship would never last, something I tried to avoid thinking, But as most cases my intuition serves me right, even when I don't want it to.

It is best to accept people come into and go out of our lives for whatever reason. Just know you were a good friend. Time moves on, Life moves on. Perhaps it is best to let it be. Just my two cents...