How can i stop this?

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Any tips on how i can avoid being picky when it comes too forming relationships with girls in the future?

Get rejected more.
Compare yourself to more guys.
Get more feedback on how you are.
Learn about other people.
Learn to be patient with other people.

I think in short it's a mixture of inner peace, better understanding and appreciation of others that will help you see what's really right for you and teach you how to fall in love.

I actually recently saw a girl i rejected 5-6 years ago and when i saw her today i found her attractive.

thats why i feel upset at the moment

Aw I see well, maybe she never changed all that much but your tastes have changed. If that is the case maybe you are already on the right track.
Just say you were a bit of a fool back then, and sorry if you gave her a hard time. And then just chat as normal and see where it takes you.

Well actually i didn't see her in 'person' but me and my friends were looking through some old 'school friends' facebook pages and there was a big pic of the girl on her profile page in a posing shot. there was another pic on her facebook where she did not look as good as she did in that photo.

perhaps maybe i saw a photoshoped pic of her?

no its rather normal. Things change, tastes change, people change. You may have lowered yourself from lack of getting what you wanted and/or she could have brought herself to what you wanted.

do a lot of guys reject girls like i have down and later ended up regretting it?

Yes. I had 2 prom invitations from gorgeous girls back in my school days. I backed out based on really stupid reasons. I thought i was being big and clever by making a silent protest of not going to the prom with "the sheeple" and also cos I was scared of girls and looking stupid. I really regret not going to this day.

Try to see what is right with people instead of what is wrong.
Being too hung up on physical attributes is a losing game as time takes it way from even the most attractive people.
For example:
http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/c ... _posed.jpg
versus:
http://images.contactmusic.com/newsimag ... 292679.jpg

If you're looking to find someone to accept you as you are then you'll need to do the same
That said be on the lookout for whatever your 'deal breakers' are; mine are angry/abusive behaviors.

At time i rejected the other girl 5-6 years i was crushing on another girl at college.

Do you me fancying somebody else at the time was the issue?

That would explain it 100%

not 100% it but would have you overlook someone. Its like giving you a hotdog when you wanted a bruger

Why does that explain it 100 percent?

Your focus was on someone else.. so anyone else is pretty much off your radar.
I've been oblivious to someone liking me many times because of that.

In the future if i have develop a crush on someone how can i avoid falling into the trap of overlooking somebody else? Perhpas what happened 6 years ago is learning experience so i will not make the same mistake again?

Now you're getting wise I've made a ton of mistakes but only a few more than once - except this kind of thing.
More than a few times I've been 'stuck' on people that weren't 'stuck' on me.
I would say try to be mindful of your obsessions and try to be realistic about them.
Find a friend you can trust that you can ask the question "Is my obsession with X something you approve of?" or something similar and get an honest answer.
Once you find someone that you like and accepts you as you are this kind of blindness is a good thing