College Girlfriend (I Hope)

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Hey there, I start college in a couple of weeks and I'm freaking out over the chance I'll meet someone there. On one side I'm excited because the dating pool at my previous school was minuscule but on the other I'm terrified of being a bumbling fool around girls. So should I be experiencing these feelings? More importantly, have any of you had luck finding a partner at college?

Nervous excitement is a normal reaction to a big change like that. There are very many females at most colleges and also an experimental time for many, so have fun!

I married someone I met at college but a lot were just there to party and experiment so be aware and use protection.

I haven't had any luck yet and I'm in my senior year. But I think for me, I try to meet girls one on one which are usually in classes. I've had female acquaintances that I would work with and talk to each class but it never amounted to anything more than that. However I am a commuter student so I think that may make a big difference because I don't go to the social actives, I'm just there academically. Plus everyone one of these girls I've talked to had a boyfriend already so I never really had any opportunities. I think if you get involved in extra activities, your chances will increase. If you are only there for the classes, it's going to be difficult to find one. I know for us, being in groups is difficult but that seems to be the only way of finding them.

im in the same position, except im typing this from my dorm. I'm incredibly anxious for the future...

Just focus on your classes, get involved with extracurriculars, and don't be attached to any outcomes.

when i went to college, i went to some crazy frat parties and hung with a lot of people but i was never very lucky when it came to wanting to hook up or find a relationship. i think part of the reason was i went to an engineering school and the women their had higher standards and i hung out with a lot of guys that were really cool and above average socially. at the time i didn't understand why i wasn't really getting the girls even went putting effort in talking to them but now being older looking from the past i think it was because i came across as not confident. when i college i wouldn't recommend trying to aim people that require higher caliber, i wouldn't say don't try it but don't make it your focus. another thing i would recommend is that if you go on a date with a girl, i would recommended taking her out a lone or with one of her female friends or vice versa for a girl because if you take him/her to a college party there will be tuns of other people that will try to steel your guy/girls interests trust me. the same applies to bars.

I have these exact same fears. I also need help.