What *People* Really Want
Bye everyone, I think I'm going to go back to reality (i.e. somewhere far, far away from here called real life).
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This is an insult in itself. It's not what men say women want. It's what research says women want - things they want that usually contradict their theoretical opinion. It's unfortunate, but it's research. It has consistently shown that, in spite of everything people want theoretically, women generally want status and dominance and men generally want a physically-attractive woman. Above everything else.
Yeah. Stop belittling me.
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This is an insult in itself. It's not what men say women want. It's what research says women want - things they want that usually contradict their theoretical opinion. It's unfortunate, but it's research. It has consistently shown that, in spite of everything people want theoretically, women generally want status and dominance and men generally want a physically-attractive woman. Above everything else.
Yeah. Stop belittling me.
Well unless you are in fact one of these 'bullies' why would you feel belittled by this?
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smudge, I said this in the "What Men Want" thread, and I'm reposting it here:
I think this is a great idea for a thread. I'm sorry you're not getting more support for it.
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And what might your point be.......I would hope that it's as more experianced internet users we should help newbies to learn the ways of the internet and how to keep from getting too sucked in and worked up about things. That is you're point correct?
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And what might your point be.......I would hope that it's as more experianced internet users we should help newbies to learn the ways of the internet and how to keep from getting too sucked in and worked up about things. That is you're point correct?
I meant it's funny she acts surprised since internet forums are full of rude people arguing with each other. She's been on these particular forums longer than most by the way.
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And what might your point be.......I would hope that it's as more experianced internet users we should help newbies to learn the ways of the internet and how to keep from getting too sucked in and worked up about things. That is you're point correct?
I meant it's funny she acts surprised since internet forums are full of rude people arguing with each other. She's been on these particular forums longer than most by the way.
It seemed to me more like being fed up rather than surprise....and I knew that poster was not new, but my counter point would not have worked if I did not word it that way. I don't see why being fed up with people being rude to each other or arguing is funny.
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As for this topic, MV put it perfectly. An example i'll give is a woman that is looking to be seen with a man with a flash car and property. he doesn't have to be rich tho, he could be good looking, stylish, important, or super confident. it's the same as a flash man looking to be seen with a flash woman. she doesn't have to be conventionally attractive, she could be rich, stylish, super confident, or important. I understand that people on here are trying to explain that the stereotypes (women-materials, men-appearance) are well documented but it doesn't matter how things are weighted because it equates to the same thing. And that's just the shallow part of the population taken care of...
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I have to kinda agree. WP even in its two warzones is very tame. If its a persons only internet forum they may be very surprised on different ones.
No. They're actually members of the general population. And here's how it works. Generally, women weigh status above anything and men weigh physical attraction over anything - despite what both groups indicate they desire in theory. In one set of research, people were asked to describe several aspects of their ideal partner. They did - and they usually put aside everything on their list for status and looks, respectively.
Because research - practical experiments - are often dismissed here, especially by women, in favour of feel-good stories about how we're all unique little snowflakes with our own preferences. We're not unique - we are all driven in some way by our most basic urges. And according to experiments carried out so far, those basic urges usually override or replace every theoretical desire in almost any human being in an almost-complete way.
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No. They're actually members of the general population. And here's how it works. Generally, women weigh status above anything and men weigh physical attraction over anything - despite what both groups indicate they desire in theory. In one set of research, people were asked to describe several aspects of their ideal partner. They did - and they usually put aside everything on their list for status and looks, respectively.
Because research - practical experiments - are often dismissed here, especially by women, in favour of feel-good stories about how we're all unique little snowflakes with our own preferences. We're not unique - we are all driven in some way by our most basic urges. And according to experiments carried out so far, those basic urges usually override or replace every theoretical desire in almost any human being in an almost-complete way.
Well the thing is neither extreme is correct.....sure females have flaws, and maybe many are driven by rather shallow things, but to generalize and say all females care about is status and that is the main driving force of all womens behavior is ridiculous. I mean I am female and well quite honestly I don't care about any of those things this 'research' claims I should care about....and I am sure there are studies that point out just as many flaws in males and attribute it to 'all' males as well. But there is no 'better' gender....there are no universal flaws every person of a specific gender has.
Basically from what I see here what exactly the basic urges are can certainly be debated.
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Sweetleaf - who said one single word about women beying driven by shallow things? About better gender? This is called projection. Study it, it helps a lot http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_projection
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