Nice rejections or well-handled rejections

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With all the talks about being rejected by girls, I'd like to change the tone and do this: Post your stories of either nice rejections, when you walked away feeling at least as good as you did when you approached the person, or well-handled rejections, where someone turned you down, but you managed to save your dignity somehow. I'll start with mine; when post your examples, you may do one or the other, or both.

Nice rejection:
I was on a cruise, and one night, I went to a Latin dance party. There was a few girls there. I spoke to one of them in passing the day before, and she recognized me and said hi. We talked a little; then a salsa song came on. I asked her if she knew salsa, and when she said yes, I asked her to dance. Instead of a friendly "no, thanks", she smiled happily, touched the area near my elbow, with her forearm resting on mine, and said: "Thanks for asking, but I'm fine. It sounds like you really know the dance." I said "very well" (in the sense of a friendlier way of saying "OK"), and the conversation ended. I later saw her on the promenade, cuddling with some guy. At that point, I figured he was her boyfriend, so her not dancing with me is understandable. Come to think of it, I didn't even feel rejected. I ran into her next day on the ship, when we happened to me on the same team during a trivia challenge competition. Our team lost.

Well-handled rejection:
I was at a singles dance. Most songs were the usual top 40 or adult contemporary. But at one point, a merengue song came on. I asked one woman to dance; she said yes. I tried to take her into the closed position (that's when the guy's right hand rests on the girls left shoulder blade, and his left hand holds her right hand). She stepped backwards, and said: "We can dance, but without hands". At first, I said OK, and tried my best to shuffle my feet to the song. But less than a minute later, I leaned over to her, and said: "Hey listen, this isn't going to work; this isn't how you dance merengue. Have nice night.", then quickly walked away without giving her a chance to answer. My motive was simple: the closed position is a normal part of Latin dances, and dancing close is just how it's done, with nothing further implied. If she couldn't understand that, it's not my problem, better than shuffling my feet pretending to enjoy myself.

Looks like people on here had mostly bad rejections. Just wanted to share my stories as a way of giving hope.

I like the cut of your jib.

Well handled rejection:

Saw really cute girl at WalMart. Paced around for a bit and decided to approach to ask her out for coffee. She said she was flattered but she had a boyfriend. I said "That's okay! He can come too! " We both chuckled and I said "Can't blame me for trying" and I walked away. Had negative thoughts after, but the during was quite good.

I had one I thought was both nice and well-handled, although I guess the circumstances make it kind of different.

Years ago, I got to know a girl I was interested in and I approached her in a circuitous but pretty obvious fashion... repeatedly bringing up the topics of relationships and orientation. She seemed a bit uncomfortable and responded with an anecdote that she'd had a female friend express feelings for her before and that although she felt guilty, she had to turn her down because she didn't think she could like a girl that way. I said "Okay." We never talked about it again, and continued being friendly for a while until other stuff intervened.

lol, I read 'ninja rejections or nice-handled rejections'..... haha :P then I assumed that a ninja rejection was one that would end within seconds or so - versus a well-handled, that wouldn't be quite as brutal as that. :B