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celestial2920
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25 Nov 2006, 1:27 am

Hi everyone!

I was wondering if anyone hasn't had sex for a long period of time (myself... 7 years) and has been obsessing on how to get some, yet you have parts of your mind arguing with each other.

I was brought up by parents who told me you're no supposed to have sex until you are married... all of my classmates got hitched by 1986... my younger sister by 1987, and here I am, last time I got any was in 1999... and it's little wonder it has been affecting me negatively. In fact... I was on at least 12 different drugs from 1999 to 2004... at least I was diagnosed with Asperger's in 2000... but still was taking anti-depressants, anti-psychotics and all that jazz... all because I can't get what I need.

I dunno know anymore... just really depressed while I'm typing this... it's seriously irritating, and I was wondering if anyone has had problems like this! :cry:



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25 Nov 2006, 3:09 am

Loneliness is worse then hell, it stops you from enjoying anything. I have always wondered if sex without love would take the emptiness away.

Other then do charity work or sleep with a prostitute, I don’t think there is substitute for love that I know of.

If I ever find an answer, you will be the first to know.



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25 Nov 2006, 8:02 am

celestial2920 wrote:
Hi everyone!

I was wondering if anyone hasn't had sex for a long period of time (myself... 7 years) and has been obsessing on how to get some, yet you have parts of your mind arguing with each other.

I was brought up by parents who told me you're no supposed to have sex until you are married... all of my classmates got hitched by 1986... my younger sister by 1987, and here I am, last time I got any was in 1999... and it's little wonder it has been affecting me negatively. In fact... I was on at least 12 different drugs from 1999 to 2004... at least I was diagnosed with Asperger's in 2000... but still was taking anti-depressants, anti-psychotics and all that jazz... all because I can't get what I need.

I dunno know anymore... just really depressed while I'm typing this... it's seriously irritating, and I was wondering if anyone has had problems like this! :cry:


Try not to feel too down. Firstly, sex is fine as long as it is with someone you care about (opinion). I've seen too many friends have lots of partners they didn't at least have some feelings for all in the name of getting the apparent buzz it gives. Those people, who are already depressed, have become more depressed than they previously were.

While it is certainly easier said than done, try not to worry a whole heck of a lot about it. Life moves on and it might help you gain some companionship if you don't drown yourself in depression. It seems people like confidence (and some find it very attractive). So put a big smile on and head outside :) (I can't believe I just said that because I hate going outdoors >.>)



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25 Nov 2006, 3:37 pm

From common knowledge I guess you would be correct. But from a scientific standpoint it cannot be.

Mother Nature punishes us with loneliness to force us into a relationship. The point of that relationship is to reproduce and have children. The child’s chances of survival are better in a loving relationship. But if you have sex out of a loving relationship Mother Nature stills sees that as reproducing. If you have enough sexual partners where quantity exceeds quality, technically there wouldn’t be as much a need to be in a deep loving relationship.

Logical Conclusion . Shallow sexual relationships are better then none at all thus are recommended for those who are very lonely, even if they don’t care for sexual pleasure.

I know that there are moral and ethical reason for not believing this, but do we have any scientific ones.



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27 Nov 2006, 11:33 pm

The truth about depression is that sex, eating, friends, or drugs* won't fix your pain. Those are simply distractions from your frustrations.

I used to suffer from some bad mamma jamma. I'm still not that emotional stable (I'm very sensitive). But I now know that when anger creeps in, I must keep it in perspective. For if it consumes me, I will soon deplete my energy... And I really, really don't want to go down that road ever again.

I'm still learning to remember the positive things in my life. And I'm learning how not let the poop in life affect me personally.

I'm gaining more mature view myself, life, and the world around me. I watch out for immature memes, from myself and others. I recognize those memes for what they are and I don't allow my thoughts to become corrupt with misconceptions.

I'm also learning how to be more friendly, and what is means to be a member of society. As I do so, my confidence has increased. And I'm less worried about missing out on anything.

*Drugs can be used to treat chemical imbalances, but not cure them.
I talked to a therapist about them. When I learned that the drugs simply numb you, not unlike heavy drinking, I opted out. For me, growing up has been the best path. I'm not you. Only you can decide what's best.