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... I don't get what's wrong with me.
There is a girl that is in my view quite the type... and to be honest with you... most would think it's not gonna happen for me...
It's just that I know that I'm not exactly first choice for some... image wise rather than the good characteristics.
For those of you wondering by the way in terms of her status, I cannot confirm or deny that... however she could be single as this guy did talk to her and I don't recall the word boyfriend being used.
Likelyhood is she's not interested, may have to lower my standards.

Also I wonder if it's not really fear of rejection... but more being watched getting rejected. As I do think that if I did this in a social setting and get rejected, I'm gonna feel awful.
Then I always think that the next person is in the books and ticks all the boxes.

Whether you "have a chance" with this girl or not, is best gauged by this quesion:

Does she know or like you at all? I she likes you and has some sort of friendship/ common interest than perhaps. IF your just admiring her from a distance, than probably not.

She possibly does know me to be fair... though only through mutual friends if that is the case.

If all else fails, climb up a tree facing her bedroom window whilst playing Lady in Red from a ghetto blaster and waving at her.

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Just kidding, bro, I'm sure you are. It isn't all about looks, it's more about how you make the other person feel, if you are a fun and humorous guy which you seem like from these forums, that's definitely a good sign and I think that can help.

I don't know many people that date people out of pity so try to make her realize that you are a fun guy to be around and if she doesn't see that, you need to be prepared to tell yourself that it's her loss and that you deserve someone that does value you for who you are.

Get to know her more first, talk to her a bit even if it's over the internet.

Another tip, NTs will find it quite 'weird' if you are to simply ask her out when you're not sure yous are even friends. Personally, I can understand this as that's what I thought dating is for, to get to know them... However NTs seem not to think this.

Don't lower your standards, it's a major difference from getting the one you desire and the one that was thrown away in a pile, never to have been seen in daylight again. Don't sell yourself to last place.

To be fair I can have charisma, wit, humour and kindness.
Now I remember something else... some did turn me down but because they didn't feel that they were good enough for me... as in they thought they were the wrong type.
Strangely enough even at times when I've been low... I can still be happy.