Knowing what you prefer...

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I have no idea what I prefer in terms of gender.. I dont want this to be a religious debate just here me out...

I have no clue on preference. I am literally confused. I don't find my self a very 'active' girl and quite frankly I don't want to be. I was in a relationship for 4 years and we were not sexually active. However, ever sense I broke up with him a few years ago I have been confused. I don't mind men or women when I think about it. Even when I have 'me time' I picture being with a male but for some reason in true reality.. neither one seems .... right. <.< Am I asexual... or just ... ?????

pansexual?

^ Explain?

attracted to all genders

question... whats the different between that and bisexual? also if i don't even know if i prefer either one.. .................... idk

Are you talking about whom you prefer to have sex with, or just whom you prefer to date/have romantic relationships with?

Also, asexuality or any other sexuality is a characteristic of your preferences over a long period of time...that means it's not necessarily something that will be clear to you right now, at this particular moment in time. The desires come first, then the label for them, but it sounds like you are trying to figure out the label without completely knowing the desires. That's not only unnecessary, it's impossible. Just be with whomever you want to be with at this point in your life without trying to categorize it, and live your life and sex life one step at a time. The patterns will emerge. Even so, you don't ever have to label that part of yourself.

^ great advice from the both of you.. i primarily mean relationship wise.. sex is last on my agendas..

What about the idea of attraction? In terms of relationships, we can have deep loving relationships with either gender without physical intimacy. I think who you love and want to be around, and who you're attracted to and want to be intimate with are two things that can completely exist on their own. So it might be a matter of who you are attracted to.

@ knowbody15... Also a good point.

@ knowbody15... Also a good point.